Eleanor emphasizes that carefully concealing intelligence for the sake of politeness can actually be patronizing, while revealing it authentically does not assert hierarchy.
As a young lawyer in the early aughts, my first months as an in-house general counsel were chaotic. The previous counsel had left abruptly weeks before I arrived, and there was no one to fill me in on the multitude of open cases and ongoing projects.
"I have my dad's death to thank for my son's birth. After he died, I was really sad that I wouldn't have someone to share my joy with, but that sadness galvanized in me a desire to create a deeper legacy and cherish the moments that matter most."