Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
4 minutes agoThis Is How Silence Makes Work Meetings Meaningful
Teamwork improves with a balance of intentional talk and silences, fostering better decision-making and alignment among team members.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNot everyone who stays silent during an argument is shutting you out. Some of them grew up in houses where raised voices preceded things that couldn't be taken back, and their silence isn't withdrawal. It's the sound of someone trying very hard not to become a person they promised themselves they'd never be. - Silicon Canals
Silence after an argument can signify deeper emotional struggles rather than mere avoidance or rejection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNot everyone who goes quiet during an argument is punishing you. Some of them learned in childhood that their anger, once expressed, became the only thing anyone responded to, and the original hurt disappeared entirely. So they stopped expressing it. Not to win. To preserve the point. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can stem from past trauma rather than being a power move.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm in my 30s and I recently noticed that the people I resent most aren't the ones who hurt me. They're the ones who saw exactly what was happening, had the standing to say something, and chose their own comfort over my safety. The betrayal that actually shaped me wasn't the cruelty. It was the audience. - Silicon Canals
Resentment often stems not from direct cruelty, but from the silence and inaction of those who witness harm.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 66 and my wife Donna said something last week that I haven't been able to stop thinking about. She said the reason our sons don't call more isn't because they don't love me. It's because I taught them that strong men don't need checking on, and they believed me. - Silicon Canals
Father-son silence often reflects learned emotional stoicism rather than a broken relationship, demonstrating that strong men don't need to check in.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNot everyone who goes quiet during an argument is shutting down. Some of them are running a calculation they learned in childhood where speaking while emotional guaranteed that what they said would be used against them later, and the silence is protective custody for their own words. - Silicon Canals
Silence during conflict can indicate a calculated emotional response rather than passive aggression or shutdown.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoIf a person can sit with you in complete silence and neither of you reaches for a phone, a joke, or an exit, what you have isn't awkward. It's the rarest form of trust most adults will ever experience. - Silicon Canals
Silence between people fosters deep connection, revealing the challenge of being present without the need for words.
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks agoDaunting, inspiring, comforting, terrifying: the writers who can make silence as eloquent as words
A vision lay before him: Fleet Street blanketed with snow, silent, empty, pure white, and, at the end of it, the huge and majestic form of Saint Paul's Cathedral. It was a spellbinding moment: the great thoroughfare temporarily devoid of carts and carriages, the cathedral looming blurrily out of the still-falling snowflakes a real-life snow globe.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm 44 and the most powerful thing I ever learned about dealing with manipulative people is that silence - actual, sustained, unapologetic silence - makes them unravel in ways that confrontation never does - Silicon Canals
Silence can effectively disrupt manipulative dynamics by refusing to engage in confrontational exchanges.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoNot everyone who avoids conflict is afraid of confrontation. Some people finally realized that the person across from them doesn't want resolution, they want an audience, and refusing to perform is the most confrontational thing you can do. - Silicon Canals
Silence can be a deliberate choice in conflict, not a sign of weakness or fear.
fromThe Atlantic
2 months agoForbearance
A little rice? A little soup? I'd rather die reading the early texts you sent about my breasts. I wouldn't take a picture- infidelity!- and so instead had conjured them with words, for which, with words, you gave me back a tongue we dragged across the skin of common thought. Such is our lot, our shared disease or gift. Like Bernini's angels propped somewhere in Rome
fromPsychology Today
3 months agoWhy We Stay Silent: The Costs of Leaving Things Left Unsaid
Our brain is constantly assessing risk and safety. Being judged, rejected, or demoted within a group can register as a threat to belonging, something that, for most of human history, meant a threat to survival. Thus, silence may merely be an intuitive default response while the brain assesses the safety of the social situation. When we sense danger, however subtle, say an unpredictable leader or a dismissive tone, the amygdala becomes alert, and the brain shifts into a state of heightened vigilance and self-protection mode.
Psychology
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
4 months agoI Played The Role Of Loving Wife. Behind Closed Doors, My Husband's Secret Was Destroying Me.
Silence and cultural expectations enabled a wife's loyalty to mask her husband's high-functioning alcoholism, preserving outward appearances while eroding intimacy and help.
fromPsychology Today
4 months agoThe Downside of Silence
I first became interested in silence over 15 years ago when an overdose of New York City noise got me wondering if and how I could find refuge in its opposite, in absolute quiet-something that was not merely a reduction in or lack of noise, but a vibrant counterpoint to the sounds which we assume define and shape our lives.
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Arts
fromThe Art Newspaper - International art news and events
7 months ago36th Bienal de Sao Paulo seeks to 'exhibit silence'
The 36th Bienal de São Paulo centers silence, ancestral narratives and non-linear journeys, using Conceição Evaristo's poem to foreground marginalized African diasporic voices.
LA Kings
fromESPN.com
11 months agoThe complicated life of a modern ace: How Paul Skenes has navigated it all by looking inward
Paul Skenes emphasizes the importance of silence in achieving clarity and mastering his craft.
Silence serves as a tool for reflection and personal growth amid the chaos of existence.
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