#small-talk

#small-talk

We tend to overestimate how uncomfortable small talk will be and underestimate how enjoyable it will be. We let our worst fears win out. Do people sometimes reject our bids to chat? For sure. But most of the time, we have more in common than we expected. Pushing yourself to talk with others can be a kind of exposure therapy. If done correctly, you'll be rewarded for initiating conversations by having a good time conversing. The more good conversations you have, the more likely you'll be to have more conversations.

I own a business, and frankly I hate it. It consumes all of my time and energy and I'm trying to figure out a plan to get out. That said, the only thing I hate more than owning and operating my business is TALKING about the business I own and operate. And yet, in any social gathering, people inevitably ask me about how it's going. And no matter how many times I deflect or redirect, inevitably, at the next social gathering, people ask me about it.

"Historically, small talk has been a ritualized form of diplomacy," said Alison Blackler, a mind coach, author, and TEDx speaker. "It allows people to signal civility, gauge each other's intentions, and maintain harmony in social groups."

The average Brit spends a whopping 56.6 hours talking about the weather over the course of a year, equivalent to two days and nine hours.