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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoSome people don't cancel plans because they're flaky. They committed when one version of their energy was available and the person who wakes up that morning is operating on a completely different reserves system. The commitment was real. The capacity isn't. - Silicon Canals
Cancelled plans reveal a flawed assumption about self-consistency and commitment, suggesting a need for a new understanding of social expectations.
Relationships
fromIndependent
3 weeks agoAsk Allison: I'm recently married and I'm an average weight - but I keep getting asked publicly about my size and if I'm pregnant. Help!
Unsolicited comments about weight and pregnancy are inappropriate regardless of someone's body size, and people have the right to establish boundaries against such intrusive remarks.
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoThe worst and best thing about growing up in a small town is the same thing - nobody forgets who you were, which means you spend your 20s trying to escape the version of yourself that 600 people cemented when you were 14, and your 40s realizing that version might have been the most honest one - Silicon Canals
When you grow up in a place where everyone's known you since you were in nappies, you carry around hundreds of versions of yourself. Each person you meet has frozen you at a particular moment - the time you threw up at the school dance, your awkward phase when your voice was breaking, that summer you tried to reinvent yourself and failed spectacularly.
Digital life
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoNobody talks about the specific loneliness of being the person who always remembers-who calls on birthdays, sends the card, checks in after the hospital visit-and then realizing in your 60s that you've built an entire social life around being thoughtful and not a single person in it has ever returned the favor without being reminded - Silicon Canals
Being the person who always remembers and initiates contact creates one-sided relationships where reciprocal effort rarely develops, leading to isolation despite decades of connection maintenance.
France news
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoThe French are in uproar about gen Z not lunching with colleagues. I'm on Team Solo Dining | Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett
Younger French adults increasingly prefer solitary lunches, challenging traditional workplace dining culture, while British workplaces more readily accept employees' autonomy regarding meal choices.
Miscellaneous
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago7 things men over 60 quietly stopped doing that aren't laziness - they're the first honest decisions they've made in decades - Silicon Canals
Aging men stop certain activities not from laziness but from honest reassessment of what genuinely matters versus obligatory social performance.
East Bay (California)
fromwww.mercurynews.com
1 month agoMiss Manners: Does this mean I can't wear a nice suit to the wedding?
Black tie optional should be interpreted as genuinely optional; hosts cannot definitively expect formal attire without explicit requirements, and guests may attend in less formal black clothing without disrespecting the couple.
fromHuffPost
3 months ago'A Week Of Grocery Money': TikToker Shared The Reason He Skipped A Friend's Birthday Dinner
The plan was to go to dinner, then go to a place that had a cover charge of $35. After looking at the menu, Lans decided to skip the dinner portion of the evening; he said the cheapest entree, a burger, was $41. Fries could be added to the meal for an exorbitant $11. (Lans said he assumed that at a fine dining restaurant, "the burger is just going to be three bites.")
Food & drink
fromSlate Magazine
3 months agoYou're Not the Only One Who Wants to Crawl Out of Their Skin at Holiday Parties. An Awkwardness Researcher Explains Why.
You have food, you have alcohol, you have questions about what to wear, you have people you don't see very often, or who you see very often but not in this context. There's also a lot of pressure on the holidays in general. We have a lot of expectations that don't always align-like we want it to be a lot of different things, and maybe it can't be all of those things.
Philosophy
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