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fromPsychology Today
3 hours ago

Grief, Storytelling, and Identity

The concept album is a response to the brutal murder of Breedlove's father and stepmother at the hands of his stepbrother. The frame—the first song and the last—of the album is about the murders and their aftermath. But this is not a true crime record.
Music production
#resentment
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Resentment Resolution: Free Yourself From Emotional Burdens

Resentment is a persistent feeling of unfair treatment that links past offenses, leading to a degenerative emotional state.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Resentment Resolution: Free Yourself From Emotional Burdens

Resentment is a persistent feeling of unfair treatment that links past offenses, leading to a degenerative emotional state.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

The Psychology of Apology in High-Stakes Failure

Sam Bankman-Fried framed the FTX collapse as mismanagement while publicly apologizing and denying intent, reflecting self-justification and reputation management.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

We Took Our Neighbor to Court Over What He Did to Our Dog. My Daughter Still Wants Revenge.

Teaching children about proportionality and justice is crucial, especially after traumatic events involving pets.
US Elections
fromDefector
6 days ago

I Guess We're Just Waiting Around To See If This Demented Psychopath Kills Everyone | Defector

Donald Trump's threats against Iran represent a dangerous escalation in rhetoric and reflect a lack of coherent strategy in U.S. foreign policy.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 days ago

Not unique to war': millions of Americans suffer from moral injury. What's causing it?

Moral injury, recognized by the American Psychiatric Association, arises from actions contradicting deeply held beliefs, affecting mental health across various contexts.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The people who apologize the fastest in any disagreement aren't the most empathetic people in the room. They're the ones who learned early that conflict had a cost they couldn't afford, and the apology isn't resolution, it's a payment to make the danger stop. - Silicon Canals

A child's relationship with their mother predicts their security in all adult relationships, not just romantic ones.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
5 days ago

My Neighbor Said Something Unacceptable to My Daughter. My Husband Refused to Step Up-So Someone Had To.

Addressing sexual harassment is crucial for the well-being of the victim.
#family-estrangement
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific kind of guilt that belongs to people who left difficult families and built better lives. It's not survivor's guilt exactly. It's the knowledge that your peace required a distance that someone who raised you experiences as abandonment, and there is no version of the story where everyone is okay. - Silicon Canals

Family estrangement often leads to complex guilt that doesn't fit traditional narratives of victimhood or ingratitude.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago
Mental health

My Big Family Once Formed the Backbone of My Life. Then, We Discovered My Sister's Horrific Actions. Now Nothing Is the Same.

Grief arises from losing a once-trusted family that protects abusers and punishes truth-tellers, necessitating boundaries, support, and therapy to mourn and rebuild safety.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a specific kind of guilt that belongs to people who left difficult families and built better lives. It's not survivor's guilt exactly. It's the knowledge that your peace required a distance that someone who raised you experiences as abandonment, and there is no version of the story where everyone is okay. - Silicon Canals

Family estrangement often leads to complex guilt that doesn't fit traditional narratives of victimhood or ingratitude.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago
Mental health

My Big Family Once Formed the Backbone of My Life. Then, We Discovered My Sister's Horrific Actions. Now Nothing Is the Same.

#hypocrisy
World news
fromThe Nation
2 weeks ago

What Are Your Obligations When Your Country Is the Villain?

The U.S. executed a devastating missile strike on a school in Iran, killing many children and raising moral questions about its actions.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Is Anger Always Justifiable?

Emotional reasoning can distort reality, leading perfectionists to justify anger based solely on its existence, potentially harming relationships.
Writing
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

I Lived Through the Worst Thing That Can Happen to a Parent. To Help Me Move On, I Did Something Drastic.

Grief is a persistent presence that evolves but never fully disappears.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the most damaging people in your life are rarely the obviously cruel ones - they're the ones who were kind just often enough to keep you doubting your own perception - Silicon Canals

Intermittent reinforcement creates confusion and self-doubt, making it difficult for individuals to recognize toxic relationships.
#forgiveness
Mindfulness
fromTNW | Opinion
3 weeks ago

The most radical act in an age of outrage is to play

Deliberate manipulation through social media and engineered news cycles creates division and emotional volatility, but reconnecting with simple human activities like play offers resistance to this conditioning.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Religious Trauma, Attachment, and Leaving Faith

Many people leave religion due to a deeper pull towards life and a mismatch between their inner experience and rigid faith structures.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Education
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

When Shame Becomes the Seed of Violence

Repeated childhood humiliation combined with learning difficulties creates shame that manifests as aggressive behavior, but early intervention by educators can redirect emotional outcomes.
Right-wing politics
fromDefector
1 month ago

A List Of Better Ways To Experience The Frisson Of Transgression Than Becoming A Fascist | Defector

A woman attracted to right-wing ideology for its transgressive appeal discovers the movement actually seeks to restrict rights from people like her, prompting her to seek a new ideological home.
#restorative-justice
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

My ex is a narcissist and the thing that surprised me most wasn't the damage they caused - it was the damage I couldn't prove. Because nothing they did would sound that bad in a sentence. A tone. A look. A pause before answering that made me feel like I'd said the wrong thing. A compliment that somehow left me feeling worse. The whole thing was built from materials too small to hold up in any conversation, and the loneliest part was knowing that what nearly destroyed me would sound like nothing to anyone wh

Emotional abuse often stems from subtle, cumulative moments rather than dramatic events, leading to significant internal harm over time.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

There's a specific kind of grief that hits when you realize your parents weren't strict because they didn't trust you. They were strict because the world they grew up in punished mistakes permanently, and control was the only form of love that felt safe enough to offer. - Silicon Canals

Strict parenting rooted in scarcity and survival often reflects a parent's attempt to protect their child from an unforgiving world they experienced, rather than emotional withholding or personality rigidity.
Women
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says the true crime audience is overwhelmingly women not because women are morbid but because women are the primary targets of the crimes being described - and learning the patterns isn't entertainment, it's threat intelligence dressed up as a podcast - Silicon Canals

Women's high consumption of true crime content represents threat assessment and safety education rather than morbid entertainment preference.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Shaming Someone Isn't the Same as Holding Them Accountable

Shaming asserts superiority, silences dissent, and often backfires, perpetuating social control and distorting moral understanding.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

War as a Psychological State

Authoritarian and narcissistic leaders share a fragile ego unable to tolerate challenge, causing them to experience political opposition as personal threat and deploy military as an extension of their distorted ego rather than as a policy tool.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Secret to Ending All Wars Is the Truth We Already Know

All major wisdom traditions independently teach the same core truth: love your neighbor as yourself, making this the fundamental target of human existence and the antidote to war.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

How to Let Go of Resentments

Resentments are past-focused emotions rooted in unresolved issues and childhood wounds that create distance and anger in relationships through accumulated hurt and unmet needs.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Why False Accusations Are So Disturbing

False accusations are uniquely disturbing because they violate the just-world hypothesis, undermining our belief that fairness exists and people deserve their outcomes.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

He Never Hit Her. Then He Killed Her

Police underrecording of domestic violence cases masks the actual danger, as the most lethal incidents often involve minimal official system contact despite visible warning signs.
UK news
fromwww.bbc.com
1 month ago

Murder accused 'traumatised' by deaf woman's death

A 36-year-old man denies murdering a deaf woman by punching her in the neck after she was ejected from a car, claiming he only pushed her to prevent her re-entry.
#infidelity
US politics
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

A War of Narratives

Clear, simple narratives improve understanding; truth-focused, superior narratives are necessary to counter disinformation and avoid equating falsehoods with facts.
World politics
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

What Happens to Your Identity Under a Dictator

Authoritarian surveillance and fear force self-censorship, creating a split between public persona and authentic self that causes lasting psychological harm.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How and Why We Cross Lines We Never Thought We Would

Gradual adaptation in relationships can imperceptibly shift personal boundaries, causing people to cross lines they once believed inviolable through a series of small, seemingly harmless adjustments.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

'It Was Just an Accident'... Until It Wasn't

The movie opens with a brief prologue. A family is driving at night. They hit something on the road, which turns out to be a dog, and the dog dies. The daughter in the back seat is visibly upset. The mother consoles her by saying, "It was just an accident-Dad didn't do it on purpose." Then the title appears, and the main story begins.
Film
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Politics of Looking Away

Like us, you may feel paralyzed in the face of the relentless images of violence we see every day. Suffering children, military occupations, the devastated neighborhoods, the cries of parents mourning their dead-these scenes haunt us. Whether it is happening in Palestine or Minneapolis, we are witnesses to suffering, and that witnessing takes a heavy toll. Clearly, the devastating situations in the West Bank and Gaza and in Minneapolis differ
Social justice
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

To Stop Self-Retaliation, Embrace Self-Forgiveness

Self-retaliation, driven by the inner critic, harms the self; cultivating Buddha nature, supportive relationships, and self-acceptance breaks the cycle of retaliation.
Miscellaneous
fromIndependent
2 months ago

'I deserve to see abuser in court, but time is not on my side' - Rockwell survivor on desperate fight for justice

Derek McCarthy suffered childhood abuse by four men at a Spiritan school; three are dead and delays hinder bringing the sole surviving abuser to court.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When Everything Becomes "Trauma"

Psychological trauma, originating from the Greek word for 'wound,' evolved from describing physical injuries to mental wounds in the late 19th century, with usage tripling since the 1970s as the term expanded to encompass various difficult life experiences.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to Restore Trust After Betrayal

Trust rebuilds not when behavior stops, but when the system enabling secrecy fundamentally changes, requiring vulnerability and transparency rather than mere behavioral compliance.
Philosophy
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

More than a feeling - thinking about love as a virtue can change how we respond to hate

Love functions as a virtue—a settled disposition promoting others' flourishing—while hate responds to threats against what one loves, not as its simple opposite.
Social justice
fromThe Nation
2 months ago

Why I Didn't Report My Rape

Statutes of limitations prevented criminal charges after a group rape in a Las Vegas hotel that the survivor never reported, leaving enduring trauma and regret.
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

People Who Cheated On Their Partners Are Sharing Why They Didn't Just Leave, And It's Complex

Honestly, it had barely anything to do with my partner or the marriage. Sure, he had his moments, but overall, he was a great husband, friend, and father. The problem wasn't not loving him; it was not loving ME. Once I got a taste of the validation of being 'adored,' I was hooked. It was like an addiction; I knew I needed to quit, but just couldn't get over it.
Relationships
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychologists explain that the reason some people can forgive enormous betrayals but struggle to forgive small slights is that small slights feel chosen. The big wounds can be blamed on circumstance, but someone choosing not to save you a seat reveals exactly where you stand - Silicon Canals

Small social slights often cause more emotional pain than major betrayals because they send unambiguous signals about social exclusion without mitigating context.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Truth and Prejudice

Xenophobia in media and policy damages immigrant health and fuels prejudice; diversified news sources and cross-group social engagement help reduce stereotyping.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

The art of the late apology: 7 things that happen when someone finally says sorry after 10, 20, or 30 years - and why psychologists say the apology that comes decades late is often the only one that actually changes anything - Silicon Canals

Long-delayed apologies from estranged people can trigger profound emotional release and healing by allowing the nervous system to finally resolve years of stored tension from unresolved conflicts.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to Exorcise Your Hate

Hate provides temporary confidence through adrenaline but leads to depression, anxiety, and destructiveness, while compassion and self-acceptance build lasting self-value and well-being.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

The Transformative Power of Speaking Out

Overpopulation, cultural erosion, and escalating violence have generated pervasive fear and trauma among the Raizal people on San Andrés Island.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

I'm finding it difficult to live up to my morals. How do I know when it's OK to compromise?

I'm finding it difficult living up to my morals where is the line between compromising a little, versus becoming complicit in what I don't agree with? I'm one of those people who believes we can each take a role in solving big problems, and that we should try to make things better where we can. For this reason, I've ended up working in public service and try to reduce how much meat I eat. I'm vegetarian 60% of the time, which is not perfect, but I believe doing something is better than doing nothing.
Philosophy
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Sexual Abuse in Intimate Relationships: Beyond Coercion

Intimate partner sexual abuse commonly uses coercion, entitlement, painful acts, humiliation, and strangulation, eroding victims' safety, self-worth, and well-being.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Quintessential Secrets of Psychotherapy: The Trauma of Evil

been ignored, neglected, minimized, or dismissed by mainstream psychology but can no longer be denied or avoided without serious consequences. As C.G. Jung (1961) presciently put it, "Today we need psychology for reasons that involve our very existence. . . . We stand face to face with the terrible question of evil and do not even know what is before us let alone what to pit against it."
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

3 Reasons You Feel Guilty for Wanting More

Humans are wired for growth. Self-determination theory shows that well-being depends on three core needs: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Interestingly, meeting external markers of success does not guarantee these needs are met internally. You can have stability without autonomy, comfort without meaning, or connection without authenticity.
Psychology
Relationships
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months ago

Dear Abby: I was hurt to find out the reason my friend cut me off

When friendships are strained by differences or harmful relationships, respond with compassion, set boundaries, and take proactive steps to protect emotional well-being.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

When Telling Your Story Costs You

DID is an adaptive, trauma-based survival response, not spectacle; media interviews often violate survivors' boundaries, causing harm and unequal power dynamics.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Suppressing Doubt Is Lying to Ourselves

Doubt is essential for genuine learning and conviction; labels and certainty suppress inquiry and create biased, illusory conviction.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

Help! I Thought I Was Over a Huge Betrayal. But My Violent Side Keeps Coming Out in a Way That Scares Me.

Unresolved betrayal and suppressed anger can produce violent nightmares even after conscious forgiveness and ongoing therapy.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Research suggests the people who forgive too quickly aren't generous. They're often replaying a childhood pattern where restoring peace was their responsibility, not the person who caused the harm - Silicon Canals

Quick forgiveness often reflects self-protection and low self-worth rather than emotional maturity, with people prioritizing relationship stability over their own emotional needs.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Selves We Show the World

I took a psychiatry class years ago, and during lectures my professor used to say, " We all have a diagnosis." We used to laugh at that. It sounded provocative. But what if he wasn't joking? What if diagnosis is not something "they" have, but something that exists on a spectrum we all live on? When we started our practice at a psychiatric facility, I saw an unsettling scene in the hallway.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why You Can't Rely on Your Own Morality Alone

What does it mean to say that you are restrained solely by your own morality, by your own mind? The conscience is often described as an inner voice telling us what to do when others may be opposed. A moral compass is that which distinguishes between right and wrong, good and bad. Our conscience, our moral compass, sets the groundwork for doing the right thing.
Philosophy
Relationships
fromInsideHook
2 months ago

The One Thing You Should Not Do If You Cheat on Someone

Norwegian biathlete Sturla Holm Lægreid publicly confessed to cheating on his girlfriend during an Olympic interview, prompting widespread social media backlash.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Retaliation and the Narcissistic Ego

A narcissistic ego prioritizes retaliation and entitlement, driving revenge behaviors, refusing accountability, and undermining healthy relationships and emotional safety.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

What We Get Wrong About Human Dignity

Dignity is inherent and unconditional; making dignity conditional, earned, or reduced to niceness or status destroys true human worth and respect.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago

Divorced People Are Revealing The Breaking Points That Finally Ended Their Marriages

Chronic over-functioning and resentment ended a marriage; separation allowed recovery and revealed the partner's ability to manage responsibilities.
fromThe Conversation
1 month ago

Meekness isn't weakness - once considered positive, it's one of the 'undersung virtues' that deserve defense today

What do you envision when you think of meekness? You probably see a mousy doormat, someone sheepishly acquiescing to the will of the stronger. When Jesus says, "Blessed are the meek, for they shall inherit the earth," you might think that those wimps will hand it over without a whimper or word of objection to stronger, more ambitious people. The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche called meekness "craven baseness."
Philosophy
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Victims of Sex Crimes Are Often Blamed

Victim-blaming stems from just-world bias and desire to protect perpetrators' images, causing silencing, stigma, and distress; compassionate listening reduces blame.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

I Am No One, and That's Changed Everything

Realizing the self is not defined solely by roles or achievements enables psychological flexibility and deeper, less attached relationships with self and others.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Did She Die the Way They Say?

Psychological autopsy clarifies equivocal manners of death but lacks standardized protocols, challenging reliability; qualitative forensic mental-state assessments deserve standing.
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