#shame

#shame

"The thing that really gets in the way of learning and growing ... is our shame. Shame freezes us and ... freeze is an anti-learning defense state that keeps us where we are."

Self-distrust often stems from shame rather than a lack of ability, leading individuals to continuously doubt their financial decisions and capabilities.

Shame is tied to the painful belief that you are fundamentally flawed, defective, or unworthy, and when ignored, it destructively impacts our lives.

To be sure, addicts typically suffer impaired control. But substance misuse doesn't involve tropisms and reflexes. The addict believes, and believes correctly, that there are ways, often requiring help and support, to regain and leverage the power of self-control, and to act and be different in the future than they are now.

Oscar Wilde's influence looms large in Cutthroat, with lead singer Charlie Steen reflecting on the paradoxical nature of life: 'Life's far too important to be taken seriously.'

Infidelity is a powerful indicator not just of lust but often deeper emotional issues. Cheating may express unarticulated aggression or anger, leading to disastrous outcomes.

"Shame is one of the most uncomfortable experiences, so much so that we often project our shame onto others to provide some relief from the discomfort."