The article explores the importance of self-reflection when confronting aspects of ourselves that we dislike. It emphasizes that experiencing difficult urges does not make us bad people. By recognizing our triggers, we can foster self-discovery and personal growth. The author shares a personal experience of overcoming initial judgments in a conversation, choosing curiosity over defensiveness. Through five suggested approaches, the article encourages readers to respond constructively to their inner struggles, enabling them to align their actions with their values rather than their automatic impulses.
It can also be tempting to look away or to beat ourselves up for the perceived flaw when that potential self-criticism feels unbearable.
The ability to recognize these triggers to our shadowy tendencies holds virtue. Noticing our sensitivities can help us learn about ourselves.
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