The article discusses a parent's struggle to support their 11-year-old daughter, who experiences intense emotions and self-imposed pressure. The parent employs various strategies—from encouraging reframing of challenges to giving space during meltdowns—but finds only partial success. Humor emerges as a helpful tactic, but inspiration often escapes. The parent considers seeking a therapist but is deterred by a past negative experience. Ultimately, there's a tension between accepting their child's unique personality and ensuring she acquires the coping skills necessary for emotional regulation.
Sometimes I express frustration or try to shut down a reaction as she's ramping up with a firm, 'No, this isn't something to get upset about.' Part of me feels like I'm invalidating her feelings.
The best tactic, I've found, is humor, but I don't always have the inspiration for how to work that in.
We've halfheartedly looked for a child therapist, but I had a bad experience with one as a child, which has made me want one who comes recommended.
Part of me just thinks she's her own personality. And part of me thinks she needs to learn methods and skills to manage this or she'll struggle.
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