This is how we do it: We were quite amazed to find out what we could do to have fun'

I still had those desires and wishes, so it felt as if I had a carer rather than a lover. Losing that ability felt as if I'd lost a sense of my masculinity.

We understood we weren't just going to jump into bed; we knew we would have to take things slowly. We're slower and more relaxed, but that means there's more focus, and more care put into finding out what works.

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