#coming-out

#coming-out

I've been out for nearly 15 years. I write openly about queerness. I coach queer tech leaders. I've helped clients come out at work, come out again after trauma, and come out for the very first time. In fact, I'm even scheduled to speak on the main stage at a conference for 500+ LGBTQ+ tech leaders this year. On paper, I look confident and settled in my identity.

Over the past little while, there have been people online trying to define me, twist things, and share conversations in ways that feel harmful. Instead of letting others write my story, I want to share it in my own words. The truth is, over the past few years, I've come to understand and accept that I'm gay. It's taken me a long time to really process this part of myself and even longer to feel comfortable enough to say it out loud.

You state that you suspect that some of your family members are aware of your sexual orientation. You have the right to invite anyone you wish to your social gatherings, but having done so, you shouldn't attempt to censor who they are.

"I'm here to tell the world today that I am queer. It feels scary, but freeing at the same time," Shoji says, emphasizing his journey of personal acceptance.

I started going by Elliott because at some point I wasn't happy with my first name because it just doesn't feel like me.

"Just as I started mentally planning out my route, a familiar voice cut through the after-school din. 'Woodhouse! I was looking for you.' My head snapped up to see Kaeden Park-Campbell, of all people, standing in front of me."

"I was told by a high up in the world's largest Christian organization that if I didn't end my relationship and denounce my homosexual lifestyle, she would call all the event planners I was already booked with and tell them I was gay and get all my gigs cancelled."