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Writing
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThe most painful thing about having parents who love you but don't quite know you is that they will spend the rest of their lives describing a son they invented to people who will never meet the one you actually became. - Silicon Canals
A mother’s idealized portrayal of her son creates a painful disconnect between reality and perception.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals
People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
23 hours agoI'm 37 and I haven't felt real joy in years, and it isn't because I'm broken, it's because I've been keeping everyone else okay for so long I forgot I was allowed to feel anything for myself - Silicon Canals
Genuine joy is often lost when one becomes overly focused on supporting others at the expense of their own needs.
fromwww.bbc.com
2 days agoJewish Londoners speak of fear and resilience after stabbings
"There's this one side [where] people are leaving the country. Four children from my son's class have left the country. And then on the flip side of it, we have become even more proud and even more Jewish, standing tall and standing strong."
London politics
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoResearch suggests people who feel lonely in their own families aren't difficult or ungrateful. They're often the ones who changed in ways their family never updated their image to match, and now they're being loved as someone they no longer are - Silicon Canals
Family love can create loneliness when it is directed at an outdated version of a person, leading to a disconnect between identity and perception.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who keep a tab open for hours before they finally send the message aren't procrastinating, they're rehearsing a version of themselves that won't be misread by the person on the other end - Silicon Canals
Deciding which version of oneself should communicate is often more significant than the content of the message itself.
Canada news
fromwww.businessinsider.com
4 days agoI moved from India to Canada for love. I felt like a trailing spouse, but 3 steps helped me rebuild my identity.
Rebuilding personal and professional identity as a trailing spouse in a new country is challenging but achievable through entrepreneurship and self-discovery.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the loneliest moments in adult life rarely happen when you're alone - they happen in rooms full of people who have known you for decades and somehow stopped seeing you, and the loneliness of being unrecognized in familiar company has a specific weight that solitary loneliness never carries - Silicon Canals
Being typecast by familiar faces leads to a painful sense of invisibility and misunderstanding.
fromwww.dw.com
4 days ago'Rose' and the piece of fabric that embodies gender politics
Markus Schleinzer's film 'Rose' imagines the life of a woman in the 17th century who conceals her gender, portraying her as a scarred soldier returning from war. This character claims to be the heir to an abandoned farmstead, reflecting the struggles women faced in a male-dominated society.
Film
#aging
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNobody warns you about the part of aging past 70 that actually lands hardest, and it isn't the body or the slowing down, it's the quiet Friday afternoon you realize the people who knew the younger version of you are gone, and the ones still here only ever met the careful, edited version you became - Silicon Canals
Contact lists reflect a life story, often filled with memories of those who have passed and the edited versions of ourselves.
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoMental health
Psychology says the most isolating part of getting older isn't having fewer people around you - it's having fewer people who knew you when you were whole and fast and full of plans, because the version of you that exists in other people's memory is shrinking at the same rate as the guest list, and one day you'll be the only person alive who remembers what you were capable of - Silicon Canals
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoNobody warns you about the part of aging past 70 that actually lands hardest, and it isn't the body or the slowing down, it's the quiet Friday afternoon you realize the people who knew the younger version of you are gone, and the ones still here only ever met the careful, edited version you became - Silicon Canals
Contact lists reflect a life story, often filled with memories of those who have passed and the edited versions of ourselves.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says the most isolating part of getting older isn't having fewer people around you - it's having fewer people who knew you when you were whole and fast and full of plans, because the version of you that exists in other people's memory is shrinking at the same rate as the guest list, and one day you'll be the only person alive who remembers what you were capable of - Silicon Canals
The hardest part of aging is losing connections to those who remember different versions of ourselves.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoLast month a friend asked me what I do for fun and I gave him a list of things I used to do, and the silence after I finished was the first honest conversation I'd had with myself in a decade - Silicon Canals
Hobbies define identity; neglecting them can lead to a disconnect from one's true self.
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 66, and I finally understand that the quiet anger I carried wasn't bitterness. It was what happens when a man spends a lifetime being told to stay strong, stay useful, and stay silent - Silicon Canals
Retirement can reveal deep-seated emotions and identity struggles, particularly for those who defined themselves by their work.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNobody talks about what actually happens to your friendships in the first years of retirement, and it isn't drama or fallouts, it's the quiet Tuesday afternoon you realise some people only knew the working version of you, and there's nothing left to talk about now that the building between you is gone - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to the fading of work friendships, revealing that many connections were based solely on the work context.
Renovation
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 66 and I've been retired for two years and the loneliness isn't what I expected - it's not about being alone, I have a wife, I have children, I have neighbors - it's about no longer being the person a room turns toward when a decision needs to be made, and that shift from being needed to being included is the quietest demotion there is - Silicon Canals
The loneliness of retirement stems from feeling unnecessary as roles and needs change over time.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says there's a specific version of loneliness that only shows up in retirement - not the absence of colleagues or the silence of mornings, but the slow understanding that the version of you the world was interested in was the one producing, performing, solving, and the version sitting at home in a quiet kitchen is someone the world has gently agreed to stop asking about - Silicon Canals
Retirement loneliness stems from losing one's identity and purpose, not just from missing social connections.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe retirement crisis nobody is talking about isn't financial - it's that a generation raised to measure their worth in output is now expected to rest, and rest feels dangerously close to worthlessness - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to a loss of identity and purpose when work defines self-worth.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 66, and I finally understand that the quiet anger I carried wasn't bitterness. It was what happens when a man spends a lifetime being told to stay strong, stay useful, and stay silent - Silicon Canals
Retirement can reveal deep-seated emotions and identity struggles, particularly for those who defined themselves by their work.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNobody talks about what actually happens to your friendships in the first years of retirement, and it isn't drama or fallouts, it's the quiet Tuesday afternoon you realise some people only knew the working version of you, and there's nothing left to talk about now that the building between you is gone - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to the fading of work friendships, revealing that many connections were based solely on the work context.
Renovation
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 66 and I've been retired for two years and the loneliness isn't what I expected - it's not about being alone, I have a wife, I have children, I have neighbors - it's about no longer being the person a room turns toward when a decision needs to be made, and that shift from being needed to being included is the quietest demotion there is - Silicon Canals
The loneliness of retirement stems from feeling unnecessary as roles and needs change over time.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says there's a specific version of loneliness that only shows up in retirement - not the absence of colleagues or the silence of mornings, but the slow understanding that the version of you the world was interested in was the one producing, performing, solving, and the version sitting at home in a quiet kitchen is someone the world has gently agreed to stop asking about - Silicon Canals
Retirement loneliness stems from losing one's identity and purpose, not just from missing social connections.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe retirement crisis nobody is talking about isn't financial - it's that a generation raised to measure their worth in output is now expected to rest, and rest feels dangerously close to worthlessness - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to a loss of identity and purpose when work defines self-worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoNobody talks about why self improvement quietly works for some people and turns into a treadmill for everyone else, and it isn't discipline or the right system, it's that the ones it works for stopped trying to become someone new, and started removing the things blocking the person who was already there - Silicon Canals
Self-improvement fails when it feels like a performance; true change comes from uncovering your existing self rather than building a new identity.
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
1 week agoFrom Toronto to Edmonton: The diaspora carrying Ukraine's fight across the world - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
Ukrainian communities abroad are not just watching the war unfold; they are actively carrying part of that fight forward, embodying a living extension of Ukraine itself.
Canada news
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the people who finally meet themselves in their 60s and 70s aren't reinventing anything, they're meeting the original person who got buried under decades of being useful to everyone else, and the relief they feel is recognition, not discovery - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to self-discovery, revealing the original self buried under roles and responsibilities.
fromIndependent
1 week ago'That tension has always been around in my life, being mixed race and growing up in Ireland with Hong Kong heritage'
Choy-Ping Ní Chléirigh-Ng expresses that growing up in Wicklow as a mixed-race individual often felt isolating, as they navigated their identity in a small town.
Arts
fromColossal
1 week agoContrast Reigns in Austn Fischer's Conspicuous Black-and-White Photos
"I started doing photography as a way to express things I don't understand or to convey a message I'm having a hard time explaining. I often work in quite a backwards way, knowing exactly what I want to arrange in front of the camera but struggling to understand the significance in my life until I am able to reflect on it after."
Arts
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who answer emails at 11 PM aren't more committed than people who don't - they've lost the boundary between availability and identity, and the late-night reply isn't proof that they care more about the work, it's proof that the work has colonized every hour of their day, and they stopped noticing because the invasion happened so gradually it felt like dedication instead of surrender - Silicon Canals
Being constantly available for work can lead to losing personal identity and boundaries.
#entrepreneurship
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
Arts
fromMetro Silicon Valley | Silicon Valley's Leading Weekly
1 week ago(Un)Documents in San Jose | Metro Silicon Valley | Silicon Valley's Leading Weekly
A theatrical roller coaster evokes empathy for generational pain caused by politics, focusing on personal experiences of deportation and identity.
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals
The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThe loneliest people at any gathering are almost never the ones standing alone by the wall. They're the ones laughing in the middle of the group who will drive home afterward in complete silence and not call anyone about it. - Silicon Canals
Loneliness often stems from being surrounded by people who believe they know you, rather than from physical absence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says people who keep adjusting their personality to suit the room aren't socially skilled - they're exhausted, and they've been exhausted since childhood - Silicon Canals
Constantly adapting one's personality can lead to exhaustion and loss of personal identity, rather than being a sign of social skill.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoMost people don't realize that the sharpest loneliness in midlife isn't having no friends - it's having friends who knew an earlier version of you and have no interest in meeting who you've become - Silicon Canals
Loneliness in midlife often stems from friends not updating their understanding of each other, rather than a lack of social connections.
fromItsnicethat
2 weeks agoRiz Ahmed's new show Bait has a spy-spoof title sequence masterminded by Pentagram partners
"Given the impetus of the plot involves James Bond - the world's most famous spy - undertones of the genre of intelligence and espionage are alluded to, in both the choice of a monospace typeface, ABC Rom Mono, and in the widely tracked, code-like setting of it."
Television
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPeople who accomplished remarkable things by 60 share one pattern - they changed their minds more often and their identity less often - Silicon Canals
Identity transformation can lead to personal fulfillment, while rigid opinions may hinder growth and authenticity.
London music
fromIndependent
2 weeks agoSam McBride: When one generation takes its lead from Rory McIlroy and the next from Kneecap, the future is impossible to predict
Rory McIlroy unites Northern Ireland through his inclusive identity and focus on sporting achievement, transcending traditional divisions.
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