Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 day agoSlowly does it: how to be patient in a world that wants everything right now
Modern culture fosters impatience in children and adults, impacting their ability to wait and develop essential life skills.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoI realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals
Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who can walk away from an argument without needing the last word aren't passive or weak - they've learned that some people don't argue to understand, they argue to win, and disengaging from a game that was never designed to have a fair outcome is one of the most sophisticated emotional skills a person can develop, even though it almost always gets mistaken for not caring - Silicon Canals
Walking away from unproductive arguments reflects wisdom, not weakness, and is essential for emotional health.
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Parenting
fromScary Mommy
1 day agoThis Mom Is Tired Of Being Called "No Fun" For Enforcing Basic Parenting Rules
Enforcing parenting routines often leads to being perceived as the 'bad guy' by family members.
Parenting
fromHuffPost
4 hours ago6 Phrases Adult Children Are Desperate To Hear From Their Parents
Healthy parent-child relationships require clear communication, respect, and empathy, especially as adult children seek validation and understanding from their parents.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who get irrationally angry at small inconveniences - the slow driver, the loud chewer, the coworker who replies all - aren't actually angry about the inconvenience at all, they're carrying a much larger weight that they have no safe outlet for, and the small thing that breaks them is never the real thing, it's just the only thing in their day they're allowed to be visibly upset about without anyone asking a follow-up question - Silicon Canals
Small frustrations often mask deeper emotional struggles and unresolved issues.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoSocial psychologists found that people who keep their living spaces immaculate aren't necessarily organized - many of them learned that a clean house was the only form of control available in a childhood where everything else was unpredictable - Silicon Canals
Compulsive cleanliness in some individuals is a trauma response linked to childhood adversity, not merely a sign of organization or virtue.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a type of adult who cannot receive a compliment without immediately deflecting it, and the deflection isn't modesty. It's the sound of a childhood where positive attention was always followed by a request, and the body learned that warmth was just the opening move before someone needed something. - Silicon Canals
False grounds in electrical work and personal interactions reveal how unacknowledged praise can lead to emotional deflection and avoidance.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNot every quiet person is thinking deeply. Some of them are monitoring. They're tracking the emotional weather of every person in the room because they learned as children that a shift in someone's tone was the only warning system available, and the monitoring never switched off even after the danger did. - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals may not be shy; they can be monitoring their surroundings, analyzing social cues instead of engaging.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals
Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who go quiet when they're angry and then resolve it internally without ever bringing it up aren't emotionally mature. They've done the math on every confrontation and concluded that the cost of being heard has never once been lower than the cost of absorbing it alone. - Silicon Canals
Emotional maturity often misinterprets silence as resolution, overlooking the cost of expressing anger versus the cost of internalizing it.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoKids Today: Thoughts From Research, Practice, and the Classroom
Each generation faces unique challenges; today's youth deserve recognition for their perspectives rather than dismissal, as evidenced by clinical research, therapeutic practice, and educational settings.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoUnderstanding Childhood Dysregulation Profile
Childhood Dysregulation Profile describes a pattern of co-occurring mood, attention, and behavioral difficulties that signals risk for later mental health challenges, with early support improving long-term outcomes.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoHow Feelings Lead to Hitting
But I would like to take a different approach. I would like to suggest that we can make some headway by considering that human behaviors are caused by their feelings, and if we can put words to the feelings (verbalization), we will go a long way to stopping physical punishment.
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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoPsychology says parents who provided everything materially and nothing emotionally aren't cold - they were loved the same way and genuinely had no idea there was another option - Silicon Canals
Emotionally unavailable parents often substitute material provision and gifts for emotional presence, translating affection into the only language they fluently speak.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago10 Things to Do That Can Make You a Better Parent
Saying yes to your child means loosening the reins and indulging them a little. It means being as flexible as you can while still setting clear limits as you normally would. For instance, let them make a fort from blankets, pillows, and couch cushions, knowing this will create more work for you, cleaning up later. Let them paint their bike. Let them invent a cookie recipe which you help them make and bake, knowing it will likely be barely edible. You get the idea.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoListen to Your Mother: What Children Learn by Eavesdropping
What makes me even crazier is that I know they can listen. I know this because they do all the time, mostly when they aren't supposed to. I can't tell you how many times I've been having an adult conversation with my husband and/or friends and my two children-who haven't listened to a word I've said all day-suddenly have very thoughtful and detailed questions
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWhy Exhausted Parents Keep Snapping at Their Kids
You snap at your child over something tiny: They won't stop asking questions while you're trying to think. They're taking forever to put on their shoes. They're resisting toothbrushing. Again. And you feel terrible for snapping at them. Again. Maybe you believe that good parents sacrifice everything for their children. That putting yourself first is selfish. That if you just tried harder...had more patience...were a better person...you wouldn't lose it over something so small.
Parenting
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