The article explores the paradox of parentified adults who outwardly appear confident decision-makers but internally struggle with anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. The pressures to control environments, shaped by childhood experiences of being excessively responsible, cause significant stress. Control is often equated with safety, which complicates the decision-making process as past criticisms foster self-doubt. The article suggests that learning to express emotions and cope with anxiety can alleviate some of the burdens associated with decision-making in relationships.
"At least....that's the way it seems on the outside. On the inside, you're roiling with anxiety over all the responsibilities you feel that you have been 'given' and the enormity of the expectations that come with them."
"The more control we have, the safer we feel. This is especially true if you grew up parentified, as your attempts at controlling your environment were based on survival in your family of origin."
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