Parenting
fromScary Mommy
3 hours agoWhat To Say When Someone Comments On Your Parenting, According To Experts
Responding to unsolicited parenting advice requires understanding the intent behind the comment.
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Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks agoMy Mother's New Fixation Is Terrifying My Daughter. She's Got to Stop.
A grandmother's repeated talk of impending death is frightening a 7-year-old; parents should establish boundaries with the grandmother and have an age-appropriate conversation with their child about mortality.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
51 minutes agoPsychology explains people who grew up with very little affection become adults who are deeply uncomfortable being comforted - not because they don't need it but because need, expressed openly, was never safe, and the body that learned that keeps flinching from the very thing it was always asking for - Silicon Canals
Experiencing a lack of affection in childhood can lead to difficulties in accepting comfort and expressing needs in adulthood.
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoMental health
I grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
51 minutes agoPsychology explains people who grew up with very little affection become adults who are deeply uncomfortable being comforted - not because they don't need it but because need, expressed openly, was never safe, and the body that learned that keeps flinching from the very thing it was always asking for - Silicon Canals
Experiencing a lack of affection in childhood can lead to difficulties in accepting comfort and expressing needs in adulthood.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals
Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThe people who seem unbothered when someone pulls away aren't indifferent. They've simply been left enough times that their nervous system learned to begin the departure before the other person finishes theirs, and what looks like calm is actually a head start on grief. - Silicon Canals
Emotional responses often begin before conscious awareness, as the body processes grief and loss through involuntary reactions.
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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology explains the most important thing a parent can give a child isn't stability or education or opportunity - it's the experience of being genuinely delighted in, the specific and irreplaceable feeling of being someone's favorite thing in the room, and children who had that carry it as a foundation and children who didn't spend their whole lives building one - Silicon Canals
Being genuinely delighted in is a crucial gift parents can give their children, impacting their confidence and future well-being.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology explains the most important thing a parent can give a child isn't stability or education or opportunity - it's the experience of being genuinely delighted in, the specific and irreplaceable feeling of being someone's favorite thing in the room, and children who had that carry it as a foundation and children who didn't spend their whole lives building one - Silicon Canals
Being genuinely delighted in is a crucial gift parents can give their children, impacting their confidence and future well-being.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals
Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals
The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
Boston
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI'm 66 and I finally understand that my mother wasn't cold - she was rationing. She had a finite amount of emotional energy and five people drawing from it every day, and the distance I interpreted as indifference was a woman trying to make it to bedtime without disappearing completely. - Silicon Canals
A child's misinterpretation of a parent's emotional reserve as indifference reveals how exhaustion and finite emotional capacity shape parental behavior across decades.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoMost people don't realize that children who grow up without affection don't struggle with love as adults. They struggle with trusting it, because it never felt safe to depend on - Silicon Canals
Emotional unavailability stems from a lack of early affection, leading to difficulties in accepting love despite an inherent capacity for it.
Women in technology
fromIndependent
3 weeks agoMotherhood unfiltered: 'There was fear the entire time. It's probably the reason I don't think I'll have another child'
Mother's Day presents emotional complexity for many women, particularly those experiencing infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, or unfulfilled motherhood desires.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who let their pets sleep in their bed aren't clingy or emotionally stunted - they've found one of the only relationships in modern life that offers unconditional presence without the performance anxiety that makes human connection so exhausting - Silicon Canals
Needing comfort from pets is not a weakness; it can enhance emotional well-being and reduce anxiety.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoYou know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals
Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
fromSlate Magazine
5 days agoAn Acclaimed Scientist Brought Attachment Theory to the Masses-and the Masses Completely Misunderstood It. His New Book Sets the Record Straight.
"Attached explains the basics of adult attachment theory, the psychological principle that categorizes people into four categories based on the way they relate to others."
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Medicine
fromwww.bbc.com
1 month agoPregnant women shed grey matter to help with motherhood, study seen by BBC suggests
Pregnancy reduces grey matter in the brain by nearly 5% on average, representing beneficial neurological rewiring that enhances maternal bonding and caregiving capabilities rather than cognitive decline.
Wellness
fromCN Traveller
1 month ago"It also took so much pressure off me": I spent three days at London's leading postpartum retreat - here's my honest review as a new mum
Postpartum retreats provide new mothers with specialized care including meditation, reflexology, lactation support, and community connection during the vulnerable fourth trimester period.
fromwww.bbc.com
2 weeks agoI spent five months in a mother and baby mental health unit - here's what I want mums to know
Sofii Lewis described her experience, stating, "I knew I wasn't safe. But I didn't think I was out of control." This highlights the confusion many face with postpartum psychosis.
Mental health
fromBuzzFeed
1 month agoThis Husband Is Going Viral For The "Problems" He Is Having With His Wife's Post-Partum Body
As a postpartum woman, most of the time, I just want my husband to hug me and tell me he's sorry I'm uncomfortable in my new body. I don't always want to hear how attractive he finds me, because I don't see it. Maybe try thanking her for sacrificing her pre-baby body to bring your children into the world. Tell her you appreciate that and love her.
Relationships
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoResearch suggests the reason your mother cries when she's happy for you and your father goes quiet when he's proud of you isn't a generational difference - it's that the emotion of watching the person you made succeed at the thing you were afraid they'd fail at overwhelms the two systems differently, and both the tears and the silence are the sound of a nervous system that cares more than the body knows how to express - Silicon Canals
Parents experience overwhelming relief when children succeed because it resolves deep-seated fears about their financial stability and future, expressed through different emotional channels rather than different values.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks agoI Had a Strange, Unsettling Experience Breastfeeding Each of My Four Children. I Finally Figured Out Why.
Breastfeeding triggered intense emotional distress including dread, sadness, and panic for the author across four children, despite lacking physical pain, leading her to switch to formula after brief periods.
Mental health
fromSocial Media Explorer
1 month agoBeyond the Clinic: Practical Support for New and Expecting Moms - Social Media Explorer
Prenatal care must address mental health and emotional resilience alongside medical monitoring, with peer support and practical community resources essential for maternal wellness.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoI found making friends as a new mom so hard. A stranger on the street changed everything.
A stranger's act of kindness in offering a stroller sparked a lasting friendship that evolved into a close-knit group of mother friends who support each other through motherhood.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
3 weeks agoI was terrified about having twins. Years later, I have to admit that it was easier than having my firstborn.
A mother's postpartum anxiety after her first child did not worsen when she had twins; focusing on self-care and mental health preparation proved more effective than baby-focused planning.
fromScary Mommy
2 months agoThis Mom Says That The Woman With The Happiest Relationships Are "Useless"
"The smartest women with the happiest relationships are the useless women," Dianna Lee begins in her video. "As you can probably tell, I'm a highly capable woman. I'm capable throughout all areas of my life, through my schooling days, to my career, and I attacked my marriage life in exactly the same way. I just executed. I was fast, efficient, and I knew exactly what needed to get done. And in retrospect, it was so wrong."
Relationships
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
1 month agoWhy does my baby cry for no reason? A new mom's guide to what's really going on - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
Being a new mom can be overwhelming, especially when you can't figure out why your baby is crying. There might have already been a time you ask yourself, "Why does my baby cry for no reason?" You must have missed your baby's subtle signs. If you use a video baby monitor , you can spot their cues quickly and take action immediately before crying starts.
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Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoHelp! I Made a Deal With My Husband Before Our Baby Was Born. Five Months In, I Desperately Want Out.
A mother's physical and emotional well-being should take priority; switching to formula is a valid, non-harmful option when breastfeeding causes severe distress.
Parenting
fromIndependent
2 months agoOur daughter only wants her mum - how can I step in to help soothe her and share the load?
Young children often prefer one parent; gently stepping back and rebalancing caregiving duties prevents caregiver burnout and supports children's developing emotional regulation.
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