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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoI'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals
Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoI'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals
Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoPsychology says there's a specific version of loneliness that only shows up in retirement - not the absence of colleagues or the silence of mornings, but the slow understanding that the version of you the world was interested in was the one producing, performing, solving, and the version sitting at home in a quiet kitchen is someone the world has gently agreed to stop asking about - Silicon Canals
Retirement loneliness stems from losing one's identity and purpose, not just from missing social connections.
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoKnowing Themselves Helps LGBTQ+ Teens Thrive
Research indicates that LGBTQ+ teens entering high school experience significantly higher anxiety symptoms compared to their cisgender heterosexual peers, highlighting the unique challenges they face during this transition.
LGBT
Photography
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who always volunteer to take the group photo instead of being in it aren't being helpful - they've found the one socially acceptable way to remove themselves from the frame without anyone asking why, and that quiet self-removal is the most visible invisible thing a person can do in a room full of people who never notice who's missing from the picture until years later when someone asks "wait, where were you?" - Silicon Canals
People often hide behind cameras at events to avoid being in front of them, masking their insecurities.
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
The identity had become so central to who I thought I was that letting it go felt like admitting that entire chapter of my life had been pointless.
Bootstrapping
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals
Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days agoA facial injury changed my appearance and my life. I'm strong and confident now, and I want others to feel the same.
After my surgery, I woke up in pain and noticed my eye moving more slowly. Over time, my eyelid drooped and my eye turned, leading to numerous tests.
Medicine
#weightlifting
Exercise
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 week agoAfter decades of swearing by workout classes, I switched to weightlifting. I never expected to be so impressed by the results.
Transitioning from group fitness to weightlifting can significantly improve strength and fitness levels, especially for those feeling stagnant in their workouts.
Exercise
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 week agoAfter decades of swearing by workout classes, I switched to weightlifting. I never expected to be so impressed by the results.
Transitioning from group fitness to weightlifting can significantly improve strength and fitness levels, especially for those feeling stagnant in their workouts.
#emotional-suppression
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the unhappiest men in any room aren't the ones who complain - they're the ones who've become so skilled at performing contentment that they've lost the ability to locate their own actual feelings beneath the performance - Silicon Canals
Many men mask their true feelings behind a facade of competence and ease, leading to emotional disconnection and confusion about their own emotions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoMost men who grew up in the 1960s and 70s were taught that admitting you needed help was a character flaw. Finally, we are discovering that openness has its own kind of strength. - Silicon Canals
Men are taught to suppress emotions, leading to loneliness and health issues.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says people who get irrationally angry at small inconveniences - the slow driver, the loud chewer, the coworker who replies all - aren't actually angry about the inconvenience at all, they're carrying a much larger weight that they have no safe outlet for, and the small thing that breaks them is never the real thing, it's just the only thing in their day they're allowed to be visibly upset about without anyone asking a follow-up question - Silicon Canals
Small frustrations often mask deeper emotional struggles and unresolved issues.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI turned 34 before I finally understood: no one is on their way to rescue you, no one is tallying your effort, and life doesn't wait for you to feel ready - it just keeps moving without you - Silicon Canals
Success is not guaranteed by effort alone; waiting for recognition can lead to disappointment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says people who make others light up when they first meet them have usually known what it feels like to be overlooked - and instead of becoming bitter about it, they made a quiet decision at some point in their life that no one in their presence would ever feel that invisible again, and that choice is one of the most powerful things a human being can do with their own pain - Silicon Canals
Warm individuals often transform their experiences of invisibility into empathy, making others feel valued and seen.
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 weeks agoThe highs are extremely high but the lows are extremely low': when working out becomes an addiction
Tyburski was a professional adventurer, financing his pursuits via magazine articles and speaking gigs, and even making a documentary about his quest. His whole raison d'etre was to push past his limitations, showing what a person is capable of when their mindset is strong enough.
Running
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology suggests men who are deeply unhappy in life but hide it well aren't being strong - they're running a performance that costs them every real connection they have, and the people closest to them almost never see it coming - Silicon Canals
Men often mask their depression with busyness and distraction, making it difficult to recognize their true emotional state.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThere's a type of person who only feels permission to rest when they're physically sick, and the illness isn't the problem. The problem is the invisible equation they absorbed decades ago that says rest must be earned through suffering and a healthy body has no valid claim to stillness. - Silicon Canals
Sickness is often the only socially acceptable reason for rest, revealing deep-rooted beliefs about productivity and morality.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoWatching my six year old deadlift 35kg was pretty cool': meet the children who work out
People tell me it will stunt their growth or that it's dangerous, she says. She is also often accused of forcing her children to train, when actually it all started the other way round. What child doesn't look at their parents and want to do what they're doing?
Parenting
Running
fromIndependent
1 month ago'Social media often shows athletes as the leanest version of themselves, but that's not always the best'
Emma Moore, a Galway 800m runner, overcame RED syndrome caused by unintentional under-fuelling during her first year at DCU and is now rebuilding her competitive form.
fromTiny Buddha
2 months agoWhy I Stopped Trying to Be Thin and Started Trying to Be Strong - Tiny Buddha
"The resistance that you fight physically in the gym and the resistance that you fight in life can only build a strong character." ~Arnold Schwarzenegger The gym. Just saying the word makes some people break into a sweat-and not the good kind. Bright lights. Mirrors everywhere. What do I wear? That "everyone is staring at me" feeling (spoiler: they're not; they're staring at themselves).
Wellness
Wellness
fromSilicon Canals
2 months agoPeople who stay in shape without hitting the gym usually share these 8 simple daily routines - Silicon Canals
Sustainable daily movement and simple routines integrated into everyday life maintain fitness and vitality more effectively than intense gym-focused workouts.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoIf a man in his 40s suddenly starts going to the gym every day, cooking his own meals, and spending time alone, something important is happening - and it's almost always the opposite of a crisis - Silicon Canals
Men adopting disciplined habits like regular strength training, cooking, and intentional solitude in midlife often rebuild themselves rather than experience a crisis.
Mental health
fromwww.bbc.com
2 months agoI used to hate my appearance. Here's how I learned to accept it
Body Dysmorphic Disorder can severely disrupt daily life through obsessive preoccupation with perceived physical flaws, leading to isolation, compulsive behaviors, and significant emotional distress.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoI thought my powerlifter father was the strongest man in the world. But a secret steroid addiction took him and us to the brink
A father's drug addiction was concealed by a muscular, disciplined physique and obsessive gym habits, masking his dependence until his family discovered it.
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