Mental health
fromPsychology Today
12 hours agoThe Harm of Parental Alienation
Parental alienation causes children to reject one parent, leading to devastating long-term effects, especially during high-conflict separations or divorces.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours agoPsychology says people who check on everyone else during a crisis before acknowledging their own fear aren't selfless - they learned that being needed is the only form of safety their childhood ever reliably delivered - Silicon Canals
Composure in crises often masks unresolved childhood fears and the need to fulfill others' expectations.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours agoPsychology says people who check on everyone else during a crisis before acknowledging their own fear aren't selfless - they learned that being needed is the only form of safety their childhood ever reliably delivered - Silicon Canals
Composure in crises often masks unresolved childhood fears and the need to fulfill others' expectations.
fromPsychology Today
10 hours agoKnowing Themselves Helps LGBTQ+ Teens Thrive
Research indicates that LGBTQ+ teens entering high school experience significantly higher anxiety symptoms compared to their cisgender heterosexual peers, highlighting the unique challenges they face during this transition.
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SF parents
fromwww.theguardian.com
20 hours agoAre Axel Rudakubana's parents responsible for his terrible crime? It's a question many families will fear to answer | Gaby Hinsliff
Parents of Axel Rudakubana failed to act on warning signs, contributing to a tragedy involving the murders of three young girls.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
15 hours agoPeople don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals
People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
fromIndependent
21 hours agoModern Morals: My husband has just been let go from his fourth job in five years - I'm running out of patience. What can I do?
My husband has just been let go from his fourth job in five years. The first time it happened was during Covid when he was laid off, but it seemed to start a pattern.
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NYC parents
fromwww.amny.com
2 days agoNY's highest court questions whether state's proposed host homes program would be a shadow foster care' system | amNewYork
The Host Homes program faces skepticism due to lack of legal protections for parents and children, raising concerns about oversight and liability.
fromFOX 5 New York
2 days agoSecond suspect in murder of 7-month-old baby in stroller to appear in court
Rodriguez is being held without bail after pleading not guilty on Tuesday. He told reporters that he 'didn't do it.' 'I didn't know it was gonna happen. It wasn't my fault. I didn't pull the trigger... I didn't know he was gonna pull the trigger, I promise,' he said before being transported to court.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who talk about their childhood like it was fine but can't remember most of it aren't lying. The absence of memory and the absence of trauma feel identical from the inside until something cracks the seal, and by then the person has built an entire adult identity on the version where nothing happened. - Silicon Canals
Childhood amnesia affects memory retention, leading to a lack of vivid recollections from early years despite having a normal upbringing.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours agoI've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals
Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
15 hours agoSocial psychologists found that people who keep their living spaces immaculate aren't necessarily organized - many of them learned that a clean house was the only form of control available in a childhood where everything else was unpredictable - Silicon Canals
Compulsive cleanliness in some individuals is a trauma response linked to childhood adversity, not merely a sign of organization or virtue.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a type of adult who cannot receive a compliment without immediately deflecting it, and the deflection isn't modesty. It's the sound of a childhood where positive attention was always followed by a request, and the body learned that warmth was just the opening move before someone needed something. - Silicon Canals
False grounds in electrical work and personal interactions reveal how unacknowledged praise can lead to emotional deflection and avoidance.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPeople who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals
Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoChildren who grew up watching their parents stay together despite being visibly unhappy often develop a very specific fear as adults - they confuse sacrifice with love and can't tell the difference until someone shows them both - Silicon Canals
Emotional bonds with caregivers shape adult attachment patterns, influencing perceptions of love and suffering in relationships.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere's a particular grief that hits when your parent asks you for help with something they used to do effortlessly, and neither of you acknowledges what just shifted. You both pretend it's a preference. It's not a preference. It's the first visible transfer of authority that neither of you consented to. - Silicon Canals
Aging parents often disguise their need for help as preference, masking the underlying shift in the parent-child power dynamic.
Parenting
fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news
1 month ago'You don't need millions to adopt - kids just need love and a safe place'
A same-sex couple adopted two mixed-race sisters to prevent their separation in care, addressing the significant underrepresentation of Black and mixed-heritage children in adoption systems.
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoI was warned my children would be ripped in half when we divorced. But I had no idea just how brutal custody cases can be
Legal custody often punishes mothers who deviate from maternal norms, prioritizing restraint, vilification, and parental division over genuine caregiving, causing lasting trauma.
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