Mental health
fromPsychology Today
4 months agoBecoming Ourselves
Understanding one's identity requires reflecting on past experiences and unmet needs.
Psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams wrote, "People with personalities organized around thinking and doing abound in Western societies. The idealization of reason and the faith in progress through human action that were hallmarks of Enlightenment thinking still permeate our collective psychology..."
Narrative therapy encourages us to begin by identifying our dominant narrative—the main story we tend to focus on and tell about ourselves. Dominant narratives, though told and retold, are not always fully accurate; they sometimes ignore other important parts of the story.
"I can't forgive him. I've tried for years, but I just can't," said Craig, referring to his father, who neglected him throughout his childhood. "I know it's because I'm a bad person. Good people forgive, and bad people don't."