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Relationships
fromEsquire
4 days ago

I Opened My Marriage, Then Started Dating One of My College Students. It Nearly Cost Me Everything.

A university professor's carefully constructed identity as emotionally intelligent and progressive masked performative behavior rooted in childhood patterns of seeking approval and avoiding authentic vulnerability.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

The loneliest I've ever felt wasn't when I was alone - it was at my own birthday dinner surrounded by people who love me, laughing at the right moments, saying all the right things, and knowing that the version of me they were celebrating doesn't actually exist and the real one was sitting right there and nobody could see him - Silicon Canals

Creating false personas to gain acceptance prevents genuine connection and leaves people feeling emotionally invisible despite external success.
Relationships
fromThe Walrus
3 weeks ago

I've Been a Therapist for 40 Years. Here's What I Can Tell You about Love | The Walrus

Love requires difficult, sustained inner work to recognize and see another person as real and to undo self-deception.
philosophy
fromAnOther
1 month ago

A Reading List by Ocean Vuong: Part Two

Post-success disillusionment reveals pride, a false vocation to teach without knowledge, and pervasive self-deception among artists.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Shadow of Self-Deception

Unconscious self-deception and shadow parts lead to emotional numbness, self-negation, and obstruct authentic self-knowledge and healing.
#perfectionism
fromThe New Yorker
3 months ago

Briefly Noted Book Reviews

This coy, macabre novel recounts a trip to Venice taken by a middling English writer in the early twentieth century. His memories are presented as a defense against the "prurient and hysterical attention" that was heaped upon him after a series of "dark and tragic events"-set off by the disappearance of his wife, a wellborn American who vanished from the decrepit palazzo where the couple stayed during their honeymoon.
Books
Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
4 months ago

Can You Handle the Truth About Your Own Self-Deception?

Self-deception is widespread and mindfulness focused on body and acceptance can reveal personal truths and enhance authenticity.
fromPsychology Today
4 months ago

Why It's So Easy to Lie to Yourself

What about the lies you tell yourself? Aren't you also aware of these? After all, you know when you've had "one too many" of something that's bad for you. It's not pleasant to admit it, but the truth is definitely "out there" (or, in this case, "in here"). An act of self-deception may seem pretty harmless, all things considered, especially when compared to lying to others. But why bother? There's nothing really in it for you other than maybe feeling better in the moment.
Psychology
philosophy
fromBuzzFeed
5 months ago

People Are Calling Out Sneaky Propaganda Hiding In Plain Sight, And Now I Can't Unsee Them

People often believe they are immune to propaganda while others are deceived, but they are likely misinformed and should assume they may be wrong.
fromwww.theguardian.com
6 months ago

Love's Labour by Stephen Grosz review the truth about relationships

A maths lecturer, convinced his wife is cheating, will not check the CCTV footage that might confirm his fears but instead keeps a private tally of the number of pubic hairs she sheds in her underwear. One hair is OK, acceptable, more is evidence that she has been having it off, he says, unaware that he uses these delusions of her infidelity to protect himself from the dangers of intimacy.
Psychology
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Relationships
fromPsychology Today
9 months ago

Are You Lying to Your Therapist?

Clients commonly lie to therapists due to various motivations, such as shame and denial, affecting therapeutic honesty.
Achieving honesty with therapists necessitates self-awareness and self-acceptance.
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