#social-comparison

#social-comparison

At some point in our lives, most of us have been told to "put on a happy face" or "fake it 'til you make it." But it may be detrimental to pretend to be happy when you're not. The more people value happiness, the more unhappy they are A 2024 study by Zerwas, et al. surveyed 1,800 people about their level of happiness and their desire to be happy.

As social animals, we humans are hard-wired to learn, thrive, and grow through our relationships - our engagement with and observations of others. Early in life, we rely on teachers and role models for guidance and support. Through engagement in formal and informal settings, in school, games, and other pursuits in our young lives, comparison begins to seep into our daily lives.

My husband is a great dad to our toddler. He's loving, patient, responsive, and fun. As our kid grows, he's more and more willing to be silly with her, too. Sometimes things are tough, of course-he had no experience with kids before we had our baby, while I'm a preschool teacher and have nannied and babysat my whole life. I'm also still breastfeeding our daughter, which gives me a distinct advantage when it comes to calming her down. I'm definitely the primary parent.

We compare ourselves to those who seem ahead and forget about the masses who are in a worse predicament. This skews our perspective on success and progress.

Envy is a universal signal, not a moral failure. It's evolution's way of showing you what you care about.