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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology suggests people who consume self-improvement content obsessively without ever changing their lives aren't lazy or lacking discipline, they're getting the feeling of forward motion without the terror of actually becoming someone different, and the content is the coping mechanism, not the cure - Silicon Canals
Consuming self-improvement content can create an illusion of progress without actual change.
#art
Arts
fromThe Village Voice
1 day agoFrom Emerging Voices to the Oscars: How The Art of Elysium Is Launching Breakthrough Talent-and The People's Artist - The Village Voice
The Art of Elysium fosters artistic expression for underrepresented creators, emphasizing emotional authenticity over traditional industry validation.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the people who are genuinely mentally stronger than most aren't the ones who power through, stay positive, or never break down, they're the ones who let themselves fall apart quietly on a Tuesday evening, sat in the rubble for as long as it took, and showed up Wednesday morning without making anyone else carry it - Silicon Canals
Real mental strength involves vulnerability and acknowledging struggles, not just maintaining a brave face.
#masculinity
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals
Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who answer 'how are you' with a full, polished, three-sentence summary aren't oversharing. They've simply learned that vague answers invite follow-up, and a clean reply is the fastest way to get out of a question they were never given the language to actually answer. - Silicon Canals
Polished responses to 'how are you' often mask true feelings, serving as a closed door rather than an invitation for deeper conversation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe definitive sign of emotional maturity isn't calm under pressure, it's the willingness to say 'I was wrong' without immediately following it with a justification that quietly makes you right again - Silicon Canals
Emotional maturity involves admitting fault without shifting blame, contrasting with mere composure that can mask true feelings.
#emotional-health
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI spent forty years believing I was mentally strong because I never broke down - it took one question to make me understand that what I called strength was just a very old, very practiced form of disappearing - Silicon Canals
True strength involves vulnerability and allowing others to see struggles, rather than hiding them.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoPsychology suggests that men who were told "man up" as boys don't just suppress their emotions - they develop a pattern of harmful avoidance and it's misread as strength - Silicon Canals
Emotional suppression in men leads to serious health risks and relationship issues, as societal norms discourage vulnerability and expression of feelings.
fromLos Angeles Times
1 week agoDementia patient beaten, set on fire and killed in downtown L.A., prosecutors say
"This case involves an elderly man who was disoriented and living with dementia, conditions that made him particularly vulnerable. The level of violence alleged here is brutal, callous and extreme."
Los Angeles
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the people who find it hardest to be taken care of when they're sick aren't independent, they're carrying a very old belief that needing someone was the fastest way to be left - Silicon Canals
Needing care from loved ones during illness can evoke feelings of vulnerability and discomfort, often rooted in deeper fears of abandonment.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals
Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals
Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoMost men who grew up in the 1960s and 70s were taught that admitting you needed help was a character flaw. Finally, we are discovering that openness has its own kind of strength. - Silicon Canals
Men are taught to suppress emotions, leading to loneliness and health issues.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoMy father taught me how to change a tire, how to check the oil, how to patch a hole in drywall, and how to fix a running toilet - and he never once taught me how to say I love you or how to hold someone when they cry or how to admit I was scared, and I've spent my whole adult life as a man who can fix every single thing in the house except the silence sitting in the middle of it - Silicon Canals
Emotional absence can be a legacy inherited from fathers who prioritize practical skills over vulnerability and emotional expression.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says the people who seem impossible to offend aren't thick-skinned. They decided long ago that showing hurt gives others a map they haven't earned, so they absorb the wound and reclassify it as information - Silicon Canals
Emotional toughness often masks deep sensitivity, leading individuals to absorb pain without showing it, as vulnerability can be weaponized by others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoNot everyone who keeps their personal life private is guarded. Some people tried sharing openly once, watched it become currency in someone else's conversation, and simply adjusted the distribution list permanently. - Silicon Canals
Privacy often emerges as a response to the violation of trust and openness, not as an inherent trait of individuals.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals
True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
fromIndependent
3 weeks agoRichard Curran: Ireland is sleep-walking into future energy crises by refusing to plan beyond ideology
The catastrophe of the Iran war and the homegrown chaos of this week has once again laid bare the urgent need to reduce our vulnerability to the never-ending cycle of energy shocks.
World news
fromIndieWire
3 weeks ago'Outcome' Review: Keanu Reeves Is a Troubled Movie Star in Jonah Hill's Desperate and Unfunny Comedy About the Pain of Public Opinion
Hill struggles to open up despite his unabated desire for vulnerability, feeling that he had to turn his own therapy sessions into a Netflix documentary to force himself to an uncomfortably honest place.
Independent films
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm in my 30s and I just understood something about my father that therapy never gave me. He didn't withhold affection because he didn't feel it. He withheld it because in the world he came from, the moment you showed someone how much they meant to you was the moment you gave them the power to destroy you. - Silicon Canals
Emotional withholding can protect against vulnerability, revealing deeper love and care beneath perceived indifference.
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