Psychology
fromPsychology Today
7 hours agoWhy High Achievers Can Feel Lost After Success
The pursuit of goals often feels more fulfilling than the achievement itself, leading to feelings of emptiness post-success.
He should be dead. He believed and had many moments with himself thinking that he was going to die. Instead, he now has a second chance, and this is actually what he needed to happen.
After 40, stress physiology changes. Recovery slows. Hormonal responses linger longer. Sleep disruption compounds more quickly. Cognitive fatigue accumulates across weeks instead of days. Entrepreneurs, in particular, face chronic cognitive load: constant decision-making, emotional responsibility for teams, financial pressure (from investors, shareholders, and stakeholders), unpredictable stress cycles that follow you home to your family.
Once you withdraw from your 401(k) early, taxes (24 percent federal, plus applicable state taxes) and the 10 percent early-withdrawal penalty will take a big chunk of that $80,000. Your remaining funds-about $50,000-might still take you far, but also might go faster than you think.
Work-based identities can provide a strong sense of purpose. Such identities give a sense of uniqueness and yet simultaneously belonging-uniqueness from those outside our profession but belonging with those within it. We may enjoy a sense of community among those in the same profession and feel we are a part of something larger than ourselves.
Many therapists know the experience of leaving work while still carrying pieces of other people's lives. Session after session, we sit with grief, trauma, uncertainty, anger, longing, confusion, messy family dynamics, sophisticated relational projections, and stories that can penetrate you to your core. In response, we listen deeply, track patterns across years of someone's life, unpack mind-boggling events, and implement advanced psycho-somatic interventions that may indefinitely alter a person's future.
This comes after millions of women, myself included, have spent years trying to unlearn the toxic messages we were fed in our youth. That beauty equals thinness. That discipline means restriction. That our bodies must be controlled and minimized to be acceptable. We fought for size diversity, for the radical idea that you can be beautiful, strong and worthy without disappearing. And just as that movement was starting to shift the cultural tide, here comes this trend of pharmaceutical shrinking that pretends thinness is wellness.
Emotional exhaustion is that feeling you get in the lead-up. That sense of dread in the morning... All the things you used to do absolutely fine and in your stride suddenly feel like you can't cope with them. A lot of people talk about this inability to concentrate, which impacts the ability to make even small decisions, like not being able to think of what to wear.