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Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 hours ago

How to Talk About Childhood Issues Without Blaming the Parents

Unresolved parental trauma can manifest in children's psychiatric symptoms, perpetuating trauma across generations unless actively addressed.
#parenting
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
21 hours ago

We Were Always the Most Laid-Back Parents We Know. That All Has to Change Now.

Introducing stricter rules for children can be necessary when managing a larger household, but it may lead to resistance from the kids.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How Parenting Advice on Anxiety Misses Key Family Patterns

Helping children face fears requires parents to change their responses, not just focus on fixing the child.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
9 hours ago

OK, Are We Still Giving Kids "Chores" These Days Or What?

All kids should have age-appropriate chores to foster responsibility and teamwork in the household.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
21 hours ago

We Moved Across the Country With Our Two Boys. I'm Worried About the Way They've Chosen to "Adjust."

Encouraging children to make friends outside of school can be challenging, especially when they are content with existing relationships at home.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
12 hours ago

Would You Leave Your 15-Year-Old Home Alone All Weekend?

Determining when to leave a teenager home alone for an extended period can be challenging for parents.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
21 hours ago

We Were Always the Most Laid-Back Parents We Know. That All Has to Change Now.

Introducing stricter rules for children can be necessary when managing a larger household, but it may lead to resistance from the kids.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How Parenting Advice on Anxiety Misses Key Family Patterns

Helping children face fears requires parents to change their responses, not just focus on fixing the child.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
9 hours ago

OK, Are We Still Giving Kids "Chores" These Days Or What?

All kids should have age-appropriate chores to foster responsibility and teamwork in the household.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
21 hours ago

We Moved Across the Country With Our Two Boys. I'm Worried About the Way They've Chosen to "Adjust."

Encouraging children to make friends outside of school can be challenging, especially when they are content with existing relationships at home.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
12 hours ago

Would You Leave Your 15-Year-Old Home Alone All Weekend?

Determining when to leave a teenager home alone for an extended period can be challenging for parents.
Writing
fromPsychology Today
9 hours ago

Loving My Mother, Unlearning Myself

Love and pressure coexist in mother-daughter relationships, shaping identity and fueling personal growth through grief and complex emotions.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

The day I stopped waiting for my children to make me feel appreciated was the day I finally understood that I had spent thirty years confusing their love for me with their ability to express it - Silicon Canals

Understanding love's expression can liberate us from unmet expectations in relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
8 hours ago

Do You Want Your Kids Arguing Like a Politician?

Social media influences children's understanding of conflict and behavior more than unrealistic beauty standards do.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

Social psychologists say the friendships we lose in adulthood aren't lost to conflict or distance - they're lost to the moment one person stops initiating and the other interprets the silence as confirmation they were never that important - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end not through conflict but through unreciprocated effort and silent interpretations of communication gaps.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 day ago

7 Warning Signs Your Friendship Isn't Going To Last

Friendships can end due to one-sided dynamics or negative feelings, indicating an expiration date.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

Social psychologists say the friendships we lose in adulthood aren't lost to conflict or distance - they're lost to the moment one person stops initiating and the other interprets the silence as confirmation they were never that important - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end not through conflict but through unreciprocated effort and silent interpretations of communication gaps.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 day ago

7 Warning Signs Your Friendship Isn't Going To Last

Friendships can end due to one-sided dynamics or negative feelings, indicating an expiration date.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours ago

Psychology says people who keep adjusting their personality to suit the room aren't socially skilled - they're exhausted, and they've been exhausted since childhood - Silicon Canals

Constantly adapting one's personality can lead to exhaustion and loss of personal identity, rather than being a sign of social skill.
Parenting
fromMindful
17 hours ago

Raising Happy Children In Challenging Times: Practices that Build Essential Skills For Well-Being

Happiness is attainable and essential for well-being, even amid life's challenges.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
8 hours ago

21 Adults Over 30 Who Live With Their Parents Are Revealing How It's Going

Living with parents after 30 is common and should not be a source of shame.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals

Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

I was bullied when I was young and now find it very hard to make friends | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

Bullying in adolescence can have lasting effects on confidence and friendships in adulthood.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
14 hours ago

Why So Many Men Never Leave Home (and What It Costs Them)

One in six men without a college degree lives with their parents, impacting their social skills and labor force participation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The people who seem to have endless patience with difficult family members aren't necessarily more forgiving. Many of them long ago concluded that the emotional cost of asking for change was higher than the cost of absorbing the behavior, and they've been paying the cheaper price for so long they forgot there was ever a choice. - Silicon Canals

Conflict avoidance is often mistaken for patience, but it can lead to relationship breakdown and is linked to anxiety and attachment insecurity.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

The Harm of Parental Alienation

Parental alienation causes children to reject one parent, leading to devastating long-term effects, especially during high-conflict separations or divorces.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
15 hours ago

When Your Career Is Stable, but Your Relationships Arent't

Maintaining external functioning amidst internal distress is a strength, but it shouldn't be endlessly sustained or ignored.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a specific kind of adult who apologizes for crying even when they're alone, and it isn't sensitivity, it's the residue of a childhood where emotion was something you were expected to clean up before anyone saw the mess - Silicon Canals

Adults who were invalidated in childhood often apologize for their emotions, reflecting deep-seated patterns of emotional suppression.
#masculinity
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals

Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals

Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals

Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals

Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
#family-dynamics
Relationships
fromIndependent
1 day ago

Ask Allison: My parents have always favoured my brothers over my sisters and I - and now they're cutting us out of their will

Favoritism towards brothers is damaging family relationships and affecting mental health of sisters.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Mom Expects All Her Grandkids to Keep Up a Birthday Tradition. My Son Broke It-And She's Gone on Strike.

Traditions can create expectations that may lead to misunderstandings and disappointment within family dynamics.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Did My Mom Really Love One of Us More Than the Other?

The favored child dynamic shifted dramatically during adolescence, leading to feelings of rebellion and alienation.
Relationships
fromIndependent
1 day ago

Ask Allison: My parents have always favoured my brothers over my sisters and I - and now they're cutting us out of their will

Favoritism towards brothers is damaging family relationships and affecting mental health of sisters.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Mom Expects All Her Grandkids to Keep Up a Birthday Tradition. My Son Broke It-And She's Gone on Strike.

Traditions can create expectations that may lead to misunderstandings and disappointment within family dynamics.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Did My Mom Really Love One of Us More Than the Other?

The favored child dynamic shifted dramatically during adolescence, leading to feelings of rebellion and alienation.
Mental health
fromenglish.elpais.com
4 days ago

Toxic relationships (especially in the family or at work) accelerate aging

Toxic relationships can accelerate biological aging and increase health risks, emphasizing the importance of distancing from negative social connections.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship Despite Your Efforts?

Couples often become too cautious in their efforts to improve relationships, leading to unresolved issues and a lack of genuine connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who constantly apologize for things that aren't their fault aren't being polite. They grew up in an environment where someone else's bad mood was always their responsibility to fix - Silicon Canals

Over-apologizing often stems from childhood experiences that teach individuals to manage others' emotions, leading to chronic self-blame and anxiety.
#relationships
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 day ago

9 Signs Your Relationship Isn't Worth Fighting For

Relationships should not be a constant source of stress; if efforts to improve fail, it may be time to move on.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
1 day ago

9 Signs Your Relationship Isn't Worth Fighting For

Relationships should not be a constant source of stress; if efforts to improve fail, it may be time to move on.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

Slowly does it: how to be patient in a world that wants everything right now

Modern culture fosters impatience in children and adults, impacting their ability to wait and develop essential life skills.
fromDaily Mom magazine
1 day ago
Parenting

The Work Day Schedule For Stay At Home Mom

Working from home with kids requires survival strategies rather than perfect balance or multitasking mastery.
#gentle-parenting
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

Are you a gentle partner' or a Fafo partner'? I know which team I'm on | Polly Hudson

Gentle partnering encourages active listening and empathy in relationships, particularly in challenging times.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Behavioral Parents, Not Gentle Parents, Build Self-Control

Gentle parenting may improve parental self-perception but does not effectively teach children self-regulation skills compared to behavioral parenting.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

In Defense of "Gentle Parenting"

Gentle parenting faces criticism for being perceived as passive, while authoritative parenting is recognized as the most effective approach.
Relationships
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

Are you a gentle partner' or a Fafo partner'? I know which team I'm on | Polly Hudson

Gentle partnering encourages active listening and empathy in relationships, particularly in challenging times.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Behavioral Parents, Not Gentle Parents, Build Self-Control

Gentle parenting may improve parental self-perception but does not effectively teach children self-regulation skills compared to behavioral parenting.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

In Defense of "Gentle Parenting"

Gentle parenting faces criticism for being perceived as passive, while authoritative parenting is recognized as the most effective approach.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

The Quiet Pain of Growing Up With a Workaholic Parent

Growing up with a workaholic parent can lead to emotional struggles in adulthood, including intimacy issues and internalized distress.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

There's a type of adult who cannot receive a compliment without immediately deflecting it, and the deflection isn't modesty. It's the sound of a childhood where positive attention was always followed by a request, and the body learned that warmth was just the opening move before someone needed something. - Silicon Canals

False grounds in electrical work and personal interactions reveal how unacknowledged praise can lead to emotional deflection and avoidance.
#family
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days ago

I'm in my 30s, living with my family instead of my partner of nearly a decade. The tough choice has paid off.

Living with family has strengthened bonds and provided financial freedom while preparing for future homeownership.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals

Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days ago

I'm in my 30s, living with my family instead of my partner of nearly a decade. The tough choice has paid off.

Living with family has strengthened bonds and provided financial freedom while preparing for future homeownership.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals

Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Children who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals

Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Children who grew up in homes where one parent was the peacekeeper and the other was the storm almost always become adults who can read a room in seconds but have no idea what they actually feel when nobody else is in it - Silicon Canals

Emotional intelligence can stem from childhood experiences in volatile family dynamics, leading to heightened perception of others but self-blindness.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals

Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

The hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals

The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

People who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals

Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
Miscellaneous
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says people who were the "easy child" in their family didn't actually have fewer needs - they just learned faster than their siblings that expressing those needs came at a cost - Silicon Canals

Children who suppress their needs to avoid conflict often internalize the belief that having needs makes them burdensome, carrying this pattern into adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

People who were labeled 'the easy child' often became adults who confuse having no needs with being low maintenance, and the difference between those two things is about thirty years of unasked questions - Silicon Canals

Easy children often grow into adults who suppress their needs, leading to quiet suffering despite appearing content.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Yelling at Your Child Won't Work-but Something Else Does

Positive punishment effectively changes children's behavior by replacing it rather than just eliminating it.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Needy Aunt Is Back in My Life. Now She's Got Her Eyes on My Daughter.

Navigating family relationships can be challenging, especially when expectations and memories differ between generations.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

How to Not Mess Up Your Kid

Authoritative parenting, combining warmth and structure, leads to the best outcomes for children, while extremes in control can cause behavior problems.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Two Signs You're Raising a Hyper-Sensitive Child

Parenting requires understanding and support for emotionally sensitive children who may react more intensely to situations than their peers.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

A Family Science Approach to Parenting

Modern parenting culture emphasizes achievement and comparison, creating emotional communication challenges that stem from broader social patterns of productivity and performance expectations.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

7 behavioral patterns people display when they were raised by a parent who loved them deeply but had no idea how to express it without criticism - Silicon Canals

Critical parents can love deeply yet struggle to express it without criticism, leading to complex emotional patterns in their children.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Loving Your Child and Grieving Your Genetics are Separate

Grief over genetic loss and love for a donor-conceived child are separate emotions that can coexist without affecting parental bonding.
fromenglish.elpais.com
2 months ago

I don't like my mother': Why do children decide to distance themselves from their parents?

Parents hold a key that grants access to areas of their child's life that no one else can enter a foundational intimacy. However, more and more people are choosing to sever that bond and throw the key away. It's difficult to quantify how many children have decided to stop speaking to their parents, although some studies point to a steady increase in recent years.
Relationships
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

There's No Such Thing as a Child Expert

No true parenting or child experts exist because children are unique, fallible, and inconsistent individuals; expertise in parenting strategies does not equate to understanding your specific child better than you do.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says parents who provided everything materially and nothing emotionally aren't cold - they were loved the same way and genuinely had no idea there was another option - Silicon Canals

Emotionally unavailable parents often substitute material provision and gifts for emotional presence, translating affection into the only language they fluently speak.
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Boyfriend Is Very Wrong About What Makes Someone a Good Parent. I'm Not Sure I Can Marry Him.

He admires 'tiger parents.' He talks a lot about how the ideal parent is a strict disciplinarian, academically oriented, and pushes kids hard to set them up for future success. He thinks his teachers and his mom let him coast on his ADHD diagnosis, and vows that his kids will not 'get exceptions.' He thinks he would be more successful now if he'd had consistent parental pressure.
Parenting
Parenting
fromIndependent
2 months ago

Our daughter only wants her mum - how can I step in to help soothe her and share the load?

Young children often prefer one parent; gently stepping back and rebalancing caregiving duties prevents caregiver burnout and supports children's developing emotional regulation.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Parenting and Unconditional Love

Love a child unconditionally, even during their worst moments, while balancing safety and boundaries when serious mental illness affects behavior.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Compassionate Goals and Parenting

Compassionate parenting goals focused on children's wellbeing produce better outcomes for both parent wellness and child behavior than self-image goals focused on appearing perfect.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Friends Are Obsessed With Showing Their Love for Their Daughter in a Particular Way. It Makes It Hard on the Rest of Us.

Give focused time and shared experiences instead of more toys; attention and activities create meaningful memories and avoid adding clutter.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How to Practice Mentalization in Parenting

Mentalization is imagining and reflecting on a child's thoughts and feelings to improve parental understanding, model perspective-taking, and support emotional regulation.
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