"It's true that it was my body, but I was doing it for approval, you know, in a sexual light. I wanted to be appealing to boys, to girls, to whoever."
You state that you suspect that some of your family members are aware of your sexual orientation. You have the right to invite anyone you wish to your social gatherings, but having done so, you shouldn't attempt to censor who they are.
"I hated being different, speaking differently, and having customs and traditions that differed from those of mainstream America. In Hong Kong, we were part of the Chinese majority. But this all changed when my parents decided to move the family to America when I was a toddler."
Narrative therapy encourages us to begin by identifying our dominant narrative—the main story we tend to focus on and tell about ourselves. Dominant narratives, though told and retold, are not always fully accurate; they sometimes ignore other important parts of the story.