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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals
Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
#identity
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
Fundraising
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
2 days agoBridging Funders to the Front Lines: Pluralism and Greater Philanthropic Opportunity | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Movement-rooted philanthropic intermediaries are essential for addressing future challenges in the nonprofit sector and advancing equity.
Portland
fromPortland Mercury
1 day agoGood Morning, News: Locals Push Back Against Zenith, Portland Fire Goes International, and Trump Has a Christ Complex - Portland Mercury
Portland Mercury promotes local journalism and arts, highlighting events like Pizza Week and local environmental advocacy against Zenith Energy.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoMy father worked with absolute discipline his entire life, never missed a day, never complained - and on his last day of work they gave him a card and a handshake, and on the drive home he cried, and I think about that every time someone tells me the job is the point - Silicon Canals
Dedication to work can lead to personal sacrifice and unfulfilled potential, as seen in the story of a father who worked tirelessly but faced an unceremonious retirement.
fromIntelligencer
2 days agoThe Pride Flag Will Again Fly at Stonewall National Monument
The federal government is poised to settle a lawsuit filed by several LGBTQ nonprofit and historic-preservation groups that argued that the National Park Service's removal of the Pride flag in February was in violation of federal law.
NYC LGBT
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who make others light up when they first meet them have usually known what it feels like to be overlooked - and instead of becoming bitter about it, they made a quiet decision at some point in their life that no one in their presence would ever feel that invisible again, and that choice is one of the most powerful things a human being can do with their own pain - Silicon Canals
Warm individuals often transform their experiences of invisibility into empathy, making others feel valued and seen.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals
True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the secret to a good retirement isn't wealth or health or even relationships - it's having at least one thing you're still in the middle of, still becoming, still learning how to do - Silicon Canals
Retirement fulfillment stems from ongoing pursuits and curiosity, not just financial security or traditional metrics of success.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours agoMy father worked two jobs my entire childhood and I never once heard him complain - and now that I understand what that cost him, I can't stop crying about a man who never cried once - Silicon Canals
Silence can be a heavy burden, leading to unexpressed needs and emotional suppression that negatively impacts health and longevity.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe people who grew up in houses where money was tight but the table was always set properly, the shoes always clean, and guests always fed before family - they didn't learn class from wealth, they inherited it from someone who refused to let scarcity become an excuse - Silicon Canals
Class and dignity are intertwined, with true self-respect stemming from resilience in hardship rather than wealth.
NYC LGBT
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
6 days agoNew York Expands Its Sanctuary Vision to Include LGBTQIA+ Communities | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
New York City establishes the Office of LGBTQIA+ Affairs to support the community amid federal rollbacks on LGBTQIA+ rights.
#self-reliance
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoMental health
Psychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere is a specific kind of pride that belongs to people who grew up being told to figure it out. It looks like strength from the outside. From the inside it feels like a locked door they built so well they lost the key. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is a socially rewarded trauma response, often masking deeper emotional needs and issues within modern work culture.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThere is a specific kind of pride that belongs to people who grew up being told to figure it out. It looks like strength from the outside. From the inside it feels like a locked door they built so well they lost the key. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is a socially rewarded trauma response, often masking deeper emotional needs and issues within modern work culture.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThe friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals
Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 66 and I no longer spend any energy on people who make me feel like I have to earn my place in the room - not because I became cold, but because I finally understood that ease is not a low standard, it is the only standard that matters at this stage, and the people who meet it know who they are and so do I - Silicon Canals
Realizing the exhaustion of constantly proving oneself can lead to a liberating shift in perspective and relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news
6 days agoNo, Canada hasn't updated the LGBTQ+ acronym to MMIWG2SLGBTQQIA+
When the Budget was released, I was shocked to find out that Prime Minister Carney is cutting $7billion between Indigenous Services Canada and Crown-Indigenous Relations. They provided $0 to deal with the ongoing genocide of MMIWG2SLGBTQQIA+. This is abhorrent. This is callous.
LGBT
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 37 and I've already learned the hard way that self-worth takes time, healing isn't linear, and letting go is painful while you're learning to move forward - Silicon Canals
Carrying emotional weight from the past hinders self-worth; true self-worth is built internally, not through external validation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who stop trying to be liked are often accused of having an attitude - by the people who most benefited from them having none - Silicon Canals
Setting boundaries often leads to others perceiving you as difficult or having an attitude problem, despite unchanged competence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoNobody warns you that when you stop caring what everyone thinks, you also discover which of your relationships were held together entirely by your willingness to be whoever the other person needed - Silicon Canals
Stopping people-pleasing leads to a necessary audit of relationships, revealing which ones are genuine and which are based on expectations.
Relationships
fromPortland Monthly
4 weeks agoFrom the Editor: Building Community Isn't Always Fun. Do It Anyway.
Proximity-based community organizing builds solidarity across differences through sustained engagement and shared material goals, fostering understanding that transcends initial disagreements.
fromThe Atlantic
1 month agoA Word for Our Troubled Times
A record high of adults—80 percent—believes that Americans are divided on the most important values. National pride, trust in government, and confidence in institutions are near record lows. The Princeton University historian Sean Wilentz says the United States hasn't been this divided since the Civil War. Nearly half of Americans think another civil war is likely in their lifetime.
US politics
Business
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago9 lessons people raised in working-class families carry into adulthood that no amount of career success fully replaces - because the values were never about money, they were about who shows up - Silicon Canals
Working-class values prioritize genuine relationships and resourcefulness over career status and material wealth, creating lasting life foundations.
fromHyperallergic
2 months agoArt for Dignity
As if demolishing the East Wing, gutting arts agencies, and slapping his name and face on several federal buildings weren't enough, the US president now wants to do away with a DC building known as the "Sistine Chapel of New Deal art." This week, we reported on a burgeoning campaign to save the Wilbur J. Cohen Federal Building, which houses murals by Ben Shahn, Philip Guston, Seymour Fogel, and other major American artists. We will continue to follow this story.
Arts
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