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fromQueerty
8 months agoWhat is a pillow princess & how do you know if you are one? - Queerty
Pillow princesses prefer receiving in bed, not necessarily indicating laziness, but rather personal preference in sexual dynamics.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoThere's a kind of adult who can walk into any social situation and make everyone feel comfortable but cannot name a single thing they actually want for dinner. The skill and the deficit come from the same place. - Silicon Canals
Social grace often masks a lack of self-awareness, as those skilled in reading others may struggle to understand their own needs.
fromSlate Magazine
17 hours agoShe Taught Women How to Orgasm. Decades Later, Her Impact Can Still Be Felt.
Hite learned early on that women walk a sexual tightrope: 'If you had too much sex, you could be shunned like her mother was; if you didn't have enough, you could be deserted like her grandmother.'
Books
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoThere's a particular kind of loneliness that only hits people who are well-liked. It's the loneliness of being chosen for your warmth but never asked about your winters. Everyone assumes the person who makes them feel good must already feel good, and the assumption becomes the cage. - Silicon Canals
Well-liked individuals often mask their struggles, leading to loneliness despite social popularity.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe cruelest form of loneliness isn't having nobody. It's having people who love you in a way that doesn't quite reach the part of you that needs reaching, so you feel guilty for still being hungry at a table that everyone else thinks is full. - Silicon Canals
Loneliness can persist even in loving relationships when emotional needs remain unmet and unexpressed.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPeople who always respond with "fine" when asked how they are aren't lying - they learned, at some specific point in their life, that the true answer produced outcomes that were worse than the silence, and fine has been the silence ever since - Silicon Canals
Personal experiences with anxiety and emotional responses reveal deeper truths about coping mechanisms and the challenges of authentic communication.
#friendship
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says good people with no close friends aren't the difficult ones - they're the ones who asked too little, gave too readily, made themselves so easy to be around that nobody ever felt the particular friction that closeness actually requires - Silicon Canals
Being overly agreeable can lead to loneliness, as it prevents deeper connections and true closeness in friendships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the loneliest part of getting older isn't being alone - it's realizing that some friendships were only meant for a season, and not everyone grows with you - Silicon Canals
Friendships often fade as adults prioritize responsibilities and seek deeper connections, leading to feelings of loneliness even among familiar faces.
#sexual-communication
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 days agoMy Girlfriend's Sexual Behavior Would Really Turn Most Men On. But It's Killing Me With Embarrassment.
Personal preferences in sexual communication vary; not everyone enjoys or feels comfortable with dirty talk.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks agoThere's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.
A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks agoThere's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.
A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNot everyone who keeps their personal life private is guarded. Some people tried sharing openly once, watched it become currency in someone else's conversation, and simply adjusted the distribution list permanently. - Silicon Canals
Privacy often emerges as a response to the violation of trust and openness, not as an inherent trait of individuals.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoPsychology says people who are single in their 40s aren't commitment-phobic or too picky-they've developed a relationship with solitude that makes most partnerships feel like a downgrade, and that realization changes what loneliness actually means - Silicon Canals
Mid-life singlehood can lead to positive solitude, fostering personal growth and autonomy rather than loneliness.
#social-interaction
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fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 44 and I have started paying attention to how I feel the morning after I spend time with someone - not during, when the performance is running, but after, when the honest version arrives - and that single habit has told me more about my relationships than twenty years of thinking about them - Silicon Canals
The morning after social interactions reveals true emotional states, often contrasting with the perceived enjoyment during the event.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 44 and I have started paying attention to how I feel the morning after I spend time with someone - not during, when the performance is running, but after, when the honest version arrives - and that single habit has told me more about my relationships than twenty years of thinking about them - Silicon Canals
The morning after social interactions reveals true emotional states, often contrasting with the perceived enjoyment during the event.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe moment I stopped apologizing before every request was the moment I realized I'd been treating my own needs as an imposition on other people's comfort. The apology wasn't politeness. It was a pre-negotiated discount on my own worth so nobody could reject me at full price. - Silicon Canals
Apologizing before requests often diminishes one's own worth and serves as a shield against rejection.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
15 hours agoPsychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals
Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
#relationship-dynamics
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals
The quality of repair after conflict is more crucial for relationship longevity than the frequency or severity of conflicts.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPeople who stop trying to be liked are often accused of having an attitude - by the people who most benefited from them having none - Silicon Canals
Setting boundaries often leads to others perceiving you as difficult or having an attitude problem, despite unchanged competence.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the people who are genuinely magnetic in conversation aren't the ones with the most interesting stories - they're the ones who've learned to make the person in front of them feel like the most interesting person in the room, and that specific skill has almost nothing to do with what you say - Silicon Canals
Magnetic people are those who listen actively rather than those who dominate conversations.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm in my 30s and I recently realized that every relationship I called easy was actually just a relationship where I did all the adjusting. Easy never meant compatible. It meant I had become so skilled at reshaping myself that friction disappeared, and I mistook the absence of friction for the presence of love. - Silicon Canals
Effortless relationships can mask deeper issues, often leading to self-erasure rather than true compatibility.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoNobody warns you that when you stop caring what everyone thinks, you also discover which of your relationships were held together entirely by your willingness to be whoever the other person needed - Silicon Canals
Stopping people-pleasing leads to a necessary audit of relationships, revealing which ones are genuine and which are based on expectations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a generation of people who were praised exclusively for being easy to deal with, and they became adults who genuinely cannot tell the difference between being content and being convenient. The two feelings merged so early that separating them now feels like surgery. - Silicon Canals
A false ground in electrical work symbolizes individuals raised to be easy, appearing fine but lacking true grounding in their own needs.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals
True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoA letter to the person who is terrified of giving up being single: the freedom you're protecting is real, and the loneliness you're tolerating is also real, and the courage isn't in choosing one over the other, it's in admitting you've been holding both this entire time - Silicon Canals
Long-term singleness can bring both genuine freedom and loneliness, challenging the narratives of being either broken or enlightened.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoMy Boyfriend and I Are Stuck in a Vicious Sex Cycle. There Has to Be a Way Out.
Switching sexual roles requires gradual practice, clear communication, explicit consent, addressing physical discomfort and stigma, and using preparation and nonsexual role-play to build comfort.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoI Went Down on One of My Good Friends. He Has No Idea It Was Me.
A few years ago, I, a 21-year-old man, agreed to take part in a stupid frat hazing activity. Unbeknownst to "Felipe," a 21-year-old man, I performed oral sex on him during that activity while he was blindfolded. At the time, Felipe was just an acquaintance-we didn't become good friends until much later. Felipe's big brother at the frat, "Ron," is the only person besides me who knows that I performed oral on Felipe.
LGBT
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals
Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals
Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology suggests that men who were told "man up" as boys don't just suppress their emotions - they develop a pattern of harmful avoidance and it's misread as strength - Silicon Canals
Emotional suppression in men leads to serious health risks and relationship issues, as societal norms discourage vulnerability and expression of feelings.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
4 weeks agoMy New Girlfriend Just Told Me What She Wants Me to Do to Her in Bed. This Feels Wrong.
Communication about specific BDSM preferences is essential before assuming domination means denigration; partners should discuss what submission and dominance actually mean to them individually.
fromScary Mommy
1 month agoWhat Is "Sex Debt" & Is It Killing The Mood In Your Marriage?
The moment sex becomes something you owe rather than something you want, the dynamic shifts entirely. It reframes intimacy as a transaction, and that's where things start to go wrong. Sex debt thinking often comes from a place of insecurity or poor communication. Usually, couples have never discussed what sex actually means to them in the context of their relationship.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoI Really Need My Boyfriend to Go Down on Me. What He Does Instead Is Maddening.
Sexual incompatibility rooted in unresolved fear or insecurity requires honest communication and exploration of alternative ways to express intimacy and devotion beyond specific acts.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
1 month agoWhy Do Women Like To Be Called 'Good Girl' In Bed? Sexperts Explain
Women may enjoy being called 'good girl' during sex because it combines mild submission with praise, often indicating a praise kink or power dynamic preference without requiring full BDSM engagement.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoMy Husband and I Host Sex Parties. We're Feuding Over the Next Guest of Honor.
Inviting an ex to a sex party with a no-contact agreement creates awkwardness and contradicts typical party dynamics where all attendees are assumed available unless explicitly excluded.
Relationships
fromIndependent
2 months agoModern Morals: I've never had an orgasm - how do I tell my boyfriend I've been lying without wounding his pride?
Persistent inability to orgasm coexists with a strong need to control sexual experiences; enjoys sex but reports never orgasming and tells partner orgasms are subtle.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months agoMy Girlfriend and I Can Only Have Sex in a Unique Way. She Thinks I'm Going to Leave Her in Search of Something More "Conventional."
Her preferred form of intimacy is to touch herself while letting me pump her mouth. It's been great and honestly hot, and she leans submissive in bed, so it's worked out well on that end, too. It's perfectly fulfilling for me and even unintentionally kinky in a way I like, and she says she enjoys that I'm still actively penetrating her even if not in a typical way.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoI Reminded My Husband of Our Long-Time Agreement. His Reaction Isn't Fair.
I'm a woman, and I have been with my husband for 18 years. He is 22 years older than me. When we met, I was still recovering from a nasty divorce where my ex repeatedly cheated on me. After much thought, I rejected monogamy. My (now) husband was fine with having an open relationship. For the first 10 years, we had fun as swingers.
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