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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours agoPeople don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals
People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals
Friendships often end not due to change, but when one person stops the emotional labor that sustains them.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoName one person who knows what you're actually going through right now. Not the curated version. The real one. If it took you more than three seconds, that's not a failure of friendship - that's the architecture of modern adulthood working exactly as designed - Silicon Canals
Friendships in adulthood are endangered due to the challenges of fostering new connections and renegotiating old ones.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoThere's a specific kind of person who volunteers the embarrassing story about themselves before anyone else can bring it up, and it isn't self-deprecation. It's copyright. If they tell it first, they get to decide what it means. - Silicon Canals
Claiming the narrative of an embarrassing story prevents others from defining its meaning, rather than demonstrating humility.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
12 hours agoA facial injury changed my appearance and my life. I'm strong and confident now, and I want others to feel the same.
After my surgery, I woke up in pain and noticed my eye moving more slowly. Over time, my eyelid drooped and my eye turned, leading to numerous tests.
Medicine
fromYoga Journal
20 hours agoHaving Trouble Committing to a Home Yoga Practice? Here Are Simple Tips to Keep You on Track.
"Keep the commitment simple and manageable at first. It's better to practice consistently for 15 minutes each morning than to commit zealously to an hour, then stop practicing after a few days."
Yoga
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
21 hours agoProgressive Media Org Launches Turning Point USA Competitor
Faiz Shakir, executive director of More Perfect Union, stated, 'We're hoping that an economic populist movement for the next generation will start through More Perfect Union on campuses.' This reflects the organization's goal to mobilize students around economic issues.
Right-wing politics
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
The identity had become so central to who I thought I was that letting it go felt like admitting that entire chapter of my life had been pointless.
Bootstrapping
fromEntrepreneur
4 days agoThis College Student Launched His Business When He Was 16. Now It's Making Mid-Five Figures Every Month and Growing: 'You Can Not Quit'
Youth 4 Youth was built by players who are currently living the journey. We're taking the doors we've walked through and holding them open for the next generation.
Startup companies
fromBrooklyn Paper
1 week agoFrom court to community: How Brooklyn's Dreamers N Doers is changing the game for local youth * Brooklyn Paper
"I saw people who never knew each other [before] meet at the event and develop strong relationships. A lot of people came just to watch and be part of that community. That's when I knew this was special."
Brooklyn
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoI realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals
Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI turned 34 before I finally understood: no one is on their way to rescue you, no one is tallying your effort, and life doesn't wait for you to feel ready - it just keeps moving without you - Silicon Canals
Success is not guaranteed by effort alone; waiting for recognition can lead to disappointment.
fromInside Higher Ed | Higher Education News, Events and Jobs
1 day agoStudents Earning Credentials at Younger Ages
"This year's increase in undergraduate credential attainment isn't just about more completions-it's also about timing. More students are earning certificates and degrees earlier and that shift reflects how postsecondary pathways are changing and starting sooner than they once did."
Higher education
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI've spent my entire life being described as "the strong one" - and last month I sat in my car in a parking lot and cried for 45 minutes, and the thing that made me cry hardest was that there was no one to call - Silicon Canals
Feeling isolated and vulnerable can be overwhelming, especially when one has always been the strong support for others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals
People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoMost men who grew up in the 1960s and 70s were taught that admitting you needed help was a character flaw. Finally, we are discovering that openness has its own kind of strength. - Silicon Canals
Men are taught to suppress emotions, leading to loneliness and health issues.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours agoI've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals
Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
Fundraising
fromNonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
1 day agoWhat If I Freeze with a Major Donor Ask? | Nonprofit Quarterly | Civic News. Empowering Nonprofits. Advancing Justice.
Silence after making a major gift ask is often the hardest part for fundraisers, leading to self-negotiation and smaller donations.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNobody tells you that one of the cruelest parts of aging is becoming invisible in rooms you used to command - I walked into a meeting last year as a consultant and a young man looked right through me to greet the person behind me, and I stood there holding 40 years of expertise in a body he had already decided had nothing to offer, and that single moment taught me more about getting old than any birthday ever has - Silicon Canals
Aging can lead to feeling invisible and undervalued in professional settings, despite years of experience.
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 week agoClassmates subjected a young teen to "relentless" homophobic bullying. Then tragedy struck. - LGBTQ Nation
Leyton's mother stated, 'None of the boys in that school accepted him. They told him they would never accept him for the way he spoke. He was a sassy speaker, more feminine - not the 'hard boy' type. This wasn't going on for just a little while.'
LGBT
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who make others light up when they first meet them have usually known what it feels like to be overlooked - and instead of becoming bitter about it, they made a quiet decision at some point in their life that no one in their presence would ever feel that invisible again, and that choice is one of the most powerful things a human being can do with their own pain - Silicon Canals
Warm individuals often transform their experiences of invisibility into empathy, making others feel valued and seen.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoResearch suggests that people who say they prefer being alone aren't always telling the truth. Many of them preferred connection until it repeatedly disappointed them, and solitude became the story they told to make the disappointment portable. - Silicon Canals
Solitude is often misinterpreted as a preference, when it may actually be an adaptation to past relational failures.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe friend who always checks in on everyone but never tells anyone when they're struggling isn't hiding. They've simply never had the experience of someone noticing without being told, and after long enough, the idea of being spontaneously seen starts to feel like something that happens to other people. - Silicon Canals
Being the emotional caretaker in friendships can lead to neglecting one's own emotional needs and feelings.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals
Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals
Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who grew up in the 1960s and 70s don't handle hardship better than everyone else because they are stronger - they handle it better because they were never offered the alternative, and a person who was never offered the alternative develops a relationship with difficulty that people who were offered it spend their whole lives trying to build in a gym - Silicon Canals
Struggling is a norm for my generation because we never knew life could be comfortable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoTeens Are Asking to Be Seen: The Politics of Growing Up
Adolescence has always been a season of becoming. One of its most striking features is the dawning awareness that childhood is ending and adulthood is coming into view. This realization touches nearly every part of a young person's life: how they think, what they value, and, increasingly, how they understand the world beyond their own front door. Yet many teens encounter a familiar frustration as they begin to speak with more complexity-the sense of being dismissed, underestimated, or gently waved aside.
Parenting
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