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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoPsychology says people who feel a persistent low-level sadness they cannot attribute to any specific cause aren't depressed in the clinical sense - they're experiencing the accurate emotional response to a life that has drifted, incrementally and without announcement, away from the one they meant to live, and the sadness is not a symptom, it is a signal, and signals are not treated, they are followed - Silicon Canals
Low-grade melancholy may signal a disconnect between current life and expectations, rather than being a symptom of depression.
#emotional-intelligence
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology suggests people who stay calm during conflict aren't less emotional - they learned early that the person who controls the temperature of the room controls the outcome, and they stopped reacting and started choosing - Silicon Canals
Controlling emotional responses during conflict can significantly influence the outcome of the situation.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours agoPsychology says the grief that follows retirement isn't about losing your job - it's about the self that only existed inside the job, the one who was competent and needed and clearly defined, and that self doesn't retire when you do, it simply loses the only environment that was ever capable of calling it into existence - Silicon Canals
Retirement challenges identity, as losing a job often means losing a coherent sense of self.
fromIndependent
2 days ago'He's the most competitive person I know' - Shane Lowry's S&C coach on hard work, weight change and what makes Offaly man tick
Robbie Cannon was in a fourball with Shane Lowry at The Grove XXIII, a small corner of paradise tucked away on the outskirts of Hobe Sound in Florida.
Chicago Cubs
#confidence
Growth hacking
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals
The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
fromFast Company
4 days agoWhat to do after a life-defining mistake
The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
Books
fromwww.bbc.com
4 days agoPlayer strain, brain health and cyber threats high on FA priorities
The ongoing discussions regarding future structural changes to the game, such as the introduction of new tournaments (eg. Fifa Club World Cup), further intensify this challenge. These changes have the potential to significantly reduce the downtime available to elite players, affecting their recovery and overall well-being.
Soccer (FIFA)
fromDefector
6 days agoJaden Ivey Lost His Mind And Then His Job | Defector
Jaden Ivey hunts through a bible for passages to share with his followers. He evidently did not do the prep-work to place sticky tabs or bookmarks in there, so there are awkward moments of silence while Ivey flips back and forth and sniffs and mutters.
Chicago Bulls
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours agoPsychology says people who've mastered not caring aren't detached - they went through a period of caring so much it nearly broke them, and came out the other side with a much shorter list - Silicon Canals
Mastering the art of not caring comes from exhaustion, not indifference, after deeply caring and learning what deserves emotional energy.
#motivation
Careers
fromPsychology Today
6 days agoThe Surprising Psychology of Being First or Last
Rank affects motivation, with top and bottom performers increasing effort, while mid-ranking individuals often disengage.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours agoPsychology says people who want to change their lives but never start aren't lazy - they're waiting for a feeling of readiness that behavioral science confirms almost never arrives on its own - Silicon Canals
Feeling ready to act is often a byproduct of taking action, not a prerequisite.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours agoPsychology says people who want to change their lives but never start aren't lazy - they're waiting for a feeling of readiness that behavioral science confirms almost never arrives on its own - Silicon Canals
Feeling ready to act is often a byproduct of taking action, not a prerequisite.
#self-compassion
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours agoResearch suggests that self-compassion after failure - not self-criticism - is what predicts whether someone tries again, which means being hard on yourself isn't discipline, it's the thing that ends it - Silicon Canals
Self-compassion, not self-criticism, fosters resilience and encourages individuals to recover and try again after failure.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoThe person who cancels plans at the last minute often committed with genuine intention. The problem is that the version of them who said yes on Tuesday and the version who can't leave the house on Saturday are experiencing completely different levels of internal capacity, and neither one is lying - Silicon Canals
Commitments can change due to fluctuating internal resources, not necessarily dishonesty or unreliability.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoPsychology suggests people who were never taken seriously as children grow into adults who either compulsively over-explain or go completely silent - and both responses are the same wound wearing different clothes - Silicon Canals
Over-explaining often stems from trauma and anxiety, leading to chronic justification of one's presence in conversations.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoPsychology says the people who look back at the end of their lives with the least regret aren't the ones who made the fewest mistakes - they're the ones who were most fully present for the life they were actually living, who didn't spend it waiting for a better version to begin, who loved the people in front of them rather than the idea of people, and who understood, early enough to act on it, that this was always the whole thing and there was never going to be another one - Silicon Canals
Presence, not perfection, leads to a life without regret at the end.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who are best at hiding unhappiness aren't the stoic ones or the quiet ones - they're the ones who became so skilled at giving everyone around them exactly enough warmth to never be looked at too closely - Silicon Canals
People often hide their struggles behind a facade of warmth, leading to loneliness despite appearing thriving.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 34 and have always struggled to maintain close friendships - and the most uncomfortable thing I have ever admitted to myself is that I have been the one who made them hard to maintain, not through cruelty or carelessness but through a consistent and barely conscious tendency to keep just enough distance that nobody could ever get close enough to disappoint me - Silicon Canals
Sabotaging friendships by maintaining surface-level connections prevents deeper relationships and emotional intimacy.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals
Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoThere is a specific kind of pride that belongs to people who grew up being told to figure it out. It looks like strength from the outside. From the inside it feels like a locked door they built so well they lost the key. - Silicon Canals
Self-reliance is a socially rewarded trauma response, often masking deeper emotional needs and issues within modern work culture.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
23 hours agoPsychology says the most emotionally draining people in your life aren't the ones who ask for help constantly - they're the ones who treat every conversation like an emotional deposit they're making so they can withdraw twice as much the next time, and the transaction is so subtle most people don't realize they're being drained until they're completely empty - Silicon Canals
Certain people drain emotional energy by exploiting reciprocity without offering genuine support in return.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who were told they were gifted as children often grow into adults who avoid challenges - because their identity was built on being naturally good, not on getting better - Silicon Canals
Labeling children as 'gifted' can hinder their growth by tying their self-worth to innate talent rather than effort and improvement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
20 hours ago9 signs you have a genuinely sharp mind (even if you never thought of yourself as particularly intelligent) - Silicon Canals
Intelligence often manifests in quiet observation and attention to detail rather than loud proclamations or traditional measures of success.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm 37 and the friendships in my life that have lasted are the ones where we stopped pretending - stopped curating what we showed each other, stopped performing the version of our lives that made sense on paper - and what replaced the pretending is the best thing I have built in the last decade - Silicon Canals
Authentic friendships emerge when individuals drop their facades and share their true struggles with each other.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNobody teaches children how to know their own worth - we teach them to perform, to achieve, and to behave, and then wonder why so many adults reach fifty still measuring themselves against someone else's ruler - Silicon Canals
Self-worth is inherent and not based on achievements or external validation.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals
Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPeople who clean before the cleaner arrives, apologize when someone bumps into them, and pre-explain before anyone has asked for a justification all grew up in homes where taking up space without earning it first was treated as an act of aggression. - Silicon Canals
Cleaning before the cleaner reflects a deeper issue of feeling unworthy of help without prior justification.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoI'm 34 and I just realized I've been performing competence at work for seven years because somewhere along the way I confused being impressive with being safe, and the exhaustion I thought was burnout was actually the weight of never once letting anyone see me learn something for the first time. - Silicon Canals
Performing competence can lead to self-erasure and social rewards, masking genuine capability with a polished exterior.
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