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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Most people don't realize that the sharpest loneliness in midlife isn't having no friends - it's having friends who knew an earlier version of you and have no interest in meeting who you've become - Silicon Canals

Loneliness in midlife often stems from friends not updating their understanding of each other, rather than a lack of social connections.
Writing
fromAnOther
59 minutes ago

Ben Lerner's New Novel Has a Lot to Say About Art, Technology and Parenting

Transcription explores themes of technology, human frailty, and intergenerational relationships through a narrative about a failed interview and its consequences.
Austin
fromPsychology Today
15 hours ago

The Emotional Cost of Becoming Someone New

Coping with life changes during a Ph.D. journey involves financial adjustments, emotional challenges, and personal growth.
#loneliness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours ago

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the most dangerous form of loneliness isn't being alone. It's being surrounded by people while performing a version of yourself that none of them would recognize if they saw you at home on a Sunday afternoon. - Silicon Canals

The gap between one's public persona and private self creates a profound sense of loneliness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours ago

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the most dangerous form of loneliness isn't being alone. It's being surrounded by people while performing a version of yourself that none of them would recognize if they saw you at home on a Sunday afternoon. - Silicon Canals

The gap between one's public persona and private self creates a profound sense of loneliness.
more#loneliness
Film
fromThe Atlantic
4 hours ago

Enough With the Vibesy Literary Remakes

Modern adaptations of classic literature often simplify complex themes, resulting in superficial interpretations that lack depth.
fromInc
2 hours ago

The Brand Storytelling Trend: Why It's Happening and How to Win at It

In a world where audiences are flooded with content, cutting through the noise requires more than visibility. Organizations increasingly invest in storytelling and narrative strategists to shape everything from brand voice to internal alignment.
Marketing
Humor
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

People who laugh before they finish telling a painful story aren't handling it well. They're releasing the listener from having to respond to it seriously, which is a skill they learned from people who couldn't. - Silicon Canals

Laughter during painful stories often serves as a social cue to ease discomfort rather than indicating healing.
fromThe New Yorker
1 day ago

The Novelist Reimagining the Japanese American Internment

The forced imprisonment of some hundred and twenty thousand residents, a majority of whom were U.S. citizens, rested on dubious evidence that they posed any meaningful threat to American safety.
History
Books
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 day ago

Every time I write, I doubt myself': Michael Rosen at 80 on deep grief, self-belief and chocolate cake

Michael Rosen reflects on his life, creativity, and the absurdity of existence as he turns 80.
Artificial intelligence
fromFuturism
2 days ago

AI Company Known for Teen Suicides Launches New Feature to Turn Books Into Roleplaying Experiences

Character.AI introduces 'c.ai Books' to create interactive storytelling experiences using classic literature, despite past controversies and a ban on underage users.
Mindfulness
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

What if your life turned out to be ordinary'? Slow down and relish this it might even be enchanting | Nadine Levy

Ordinary life can be undervalued, yet it may offer a deeper understanding of fulfillment beyond societal expectations of achievement.
#grief
Cancer
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

After all the horrible things we've been through,' he said to me, if I die of cancer, it will make a bad story': Siri Hustvedt on losing Paul Auster

Grief after losing a loved one can distort time perception and create overwhelming emotional and physical challenges.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says adult children don't grieve their aging parents all at once - they grieve them in a thousand tiny deaths, like the first time your mother forgets she told you the same story twice, or the afternoon you notice your father's hands shaking when he signs his name - Silicon Canals

Anticipatory grief involves mourning the gradual changes in living parents, representing incremental losses rather than just preparing for death.
Cancer
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 days ago

After all the horrible things we've been through,' he said to me, if I die of cancer, it will make a bad story': Siri Hustvedt on losing Paul Auster

Grief after losing a loved one can distort time perception and create overwhelming emotional and physical challenges.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says adult children don't grieve their aging parents all at once - they grieve them in a thousand tiny deaths, like the first time your mother forgets she told you the same story twice, or the afternoon you notice your father's hands shaking when he signs his name - Silicon Canals

Anticipatory grief involves mourning the gradual changes in living parents, representing incremental losses rather than just preparing for death.
more#grief
#lynn-breedlove
Music
fromKALTBLUT Magazine
2 days ago

Writing to Stay Alive: Lynn Breedlove from Trust Me and the Sound of Loss - KALTBLUT Magazine

Lynn Breedlove's writing and music reflect personal loss and complex relationships with men, transforming grief into art.
Music production
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Grief, Storytelling, and Identity

Lynn Breedlove's album, Why I Like Dead Guys, explores relationships with deceased individuals through emotional narratives and elegies, framed by personal tragedy.
Music
fromKALTBLUT Magazine
2 days ago

Writing to Stay Alive: Lynn Breedlove from Trust Me and the Sound of Loss - KALTBLUT Magazine

Lynn Breedlove's writing and music reflect personal loss and complex relationships with men, transforming grief into art.
Music production
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Grief, Storytelling, and Identity

Lynn Breedlove's album, Why I Like Dead Guys, explores relationships with deceased individuals through emotional narratives and elegies, framed by personal tragedy.
more#lynn-breedlove
UX design
fromMedium
3 days ago

Are we makers by nature-or consumers by design?

The relationship between creation and consumption is strained, impacting designers' creativity and cognitive processes.
US news
fromwww.npr.org
3 days ago

She invited her friends to come together to make her casket

MaddyChristine Hope Brokopp is creating her own casket with friends after receiving a terminal cancer diagnosis.
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says people who need to finish the chapter before they can put the book down aren't obsessive - their brain treats an unfinished narrative the same way it treats an unresolved argument, as an open loop that will consume background processing power until it closes, and that inability to stop mid-chapter isn't about the book, it's about a mind that cannot rest inside something incomplete - Silicon Canals

The brain's need for closure drives the compulsion to finish reading or resolving incomplete tasks.
London music
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

Kae Tempest on creativity and his gender transition: I'm just glad to be alive'

Kae Tempest navigates life as a visible trans person, expressing gratitude for existence and sharing experiences through art.
#identity
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago
Bootstrapping

The reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

People who accomplished remarkable things by 60 share one pattern - they changed their minds more often and their identity less often - Silicon Canals

Identity transformation can lead to personal fulfillment, while rigid opinions may hinder growth and authenticity.
Bootstrapping
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

The reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals

Many individuals struggle to update their identities after past failures, clinging to outdated self-perceptions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

People who accomplished remarkable things by 60 share one pattern - they changed their minds more often and their identity less often - Silicon Canals

Identity transformation can lead to personal fulfillment, while rigid opinions may hinder growth and authenticity.
more#identity
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

How Storytelling Informs Relationships

Complexity involves understanding interdependence and multiple perspectives, essential for resolving conflicts and nurturing relationships.
OMG science
fromNature
6 days ago

Daily briefing: Youthifying 'mirror' brings back more vivid childhood memories

Thermal imaging reveals night-flying birds' movements, aiding in understanding their vulnerabilities to threats like wind turbines and light pollution.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours ago

The people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals

Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.
fromThe Nation
8 hours ago

Lea Ypi's Family Secrets

The narrator's journey in Tirana is marked by her search for the Sigurimi archive, reflecting her complex relationship with her Albanian identity and past.
Writing
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 hours ago

Psychology says the reason so many high-achievers can't enjoy their own wins isn't imposter syndrome, it's that achievement was the language they were taught love was spoken in, and they've never learned to receive love in any other form - Silicon Canals

High-achievers often feel unsatisfied with their accomplishments due to a childhood belief that achievement equals worth.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals

Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago
Relationships

People don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals

People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago
Psychology

I'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end not due to change, but when one person stops the emotional labor that sustains them.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals

Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Writing
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days ago

I became friends with a woman 40 years older than me. She taught me how to live.

A friendship flourished between two writers with a 40-year age difference, united by their passion for storytelling.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

People don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals

People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end not due to change, but when one person stops the emotional labor that sustains them.
more#friendship
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the most isolating part of getting older isn't having fewer people around you - it's having fewer people who knew you when you were whole and fast and full of plans, because the version of you that exists in other people's memory is shrinking at the same rate as the guest list, and one day you'll be the only person alive who remembers what you were capable of - Silicon Canals

The hardest part of aging is losing connections to those who remember different versions of ourselves.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The hardest part of looking back honestly is realizing how long you knew something was wrong before you did anything about it - Silicon Canals

Recognizing the need for change is often different from taking action to implement that change.
Artificial intelligence
fromWIRED
4 days ago

AI Drafting My Stories? Over My Dead Body

AI is increasingly being used in journalism to generate content, raising concerns about the quality and authenticity of writing.
Books
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Do You See Yourself in a Story?

Comic books have evolved into a serious medium for exploring trauma and psychological depth, exemplified by works like Maus.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The most profound late-life love stories don't belong to the people who were waiting - they belong to the people who stopped waiting, built an entire life around not waiting, and found someone anyway in the middle of a Tuesday that was supposed to be exactly like all the other Tuesdays - Silicon Canals

Love stories often begin unexpectedly when individuals stop making finding a partner the primary goal and focus on their own lives instead.
Writing
fromPsychology Today
19 hours ago

Loving My Mother, Unlearning Myself

Love and pressure coexist in mother-daughter relationships, shaping identity and fueling personal growth through grief and complex emotions.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I grew up in a house where my father worked sixty-hour weeks and never once told me he was proud of me - and I did the exact same thing to my sons before I realized the silence wasn't strength, it was a pattern I'd inherited like the color of my eyes - Silicon Canals

Emotional expression in father-son relationships can be deeply affected by generational patterns of communication.
Boston Celtics
fromDefector
1 week ago

You Can't Go Home Again, But You Can Visit | Defector

The Michigan vs. Michigan State basketball game on Feb. 23, 2014, was a pivotal moment for a new Wolverine fan and student.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of person who volunteers the embarrassing story about themselves before anyone else can bring it up, and it isn't self-deprecation. It's copyright. If they tell it first, they get to decide what it means. - Silicon Canals

Claiming the narrative of an embarrassing story prevents others from defining its meaning, rather than demonstrating humility.
#emotional-suppression
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the unhappiest men in any room aren't the ones who complain - they're the ones who've become so skilled at performing contentment that they've lost the ability to locate their own actual feelings beneath the performance - Silicon Canals

Many men mask their true feelings behind a facade of competence and ease, leading to emotional disconnection and confusion about their own emotions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

My father worked two jobs my entire childhood and I never once heard him complain - and now that I understand what that cost him, I can't stop crying about a man who never cried once - Silicon Canals

Silence can be a heavy burden, leading to unexpressed needs and emotional suppression that negatively impacts health and longevity.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the unhappiest men in any room aren't the ones who complain - they're the ones who've become so skilled at performing contentment that they've lost the ability to locate their own actual feelings beneath the performance - Silicon Canals

Many men mask their true feelings behind a facade of competence and ease, leading to emotional disconnection and confusion about their own emotions.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

My father worked two jobs my entire childhood and I never once heard him complain - and now that I understand what that cost him, I can't stop crying about a man who never cried once - Silicon Canals

Silence can be a heavy burden, leading to unexpressed needs and emotional suppression that negatively impacts health and longevity.
more#emotional-suppression
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

I was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals

Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I turned 34 before I finally understood: no one is on their way to rescue you, no one is tallying your effort, and life doesn't wait for you to feel ready - it just keeps moving without you - Silicon Canals

Success is not guaranteed by effort alone; waiting for recognition can lead to disappointment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours ago

I'm 66 and my adult son called me last Sunday just to ask how I was - no favor, no crisis, no reason - and I didn't know how to have that conversation because I couldn't remember the last time anyone asked just to check, and I was so unprepared I turned the conversation back to him within two minutes because being asked about myself had apparently become something I don't know how to receive anymore - Silicon Canals

Men often struggle to express their feelings due to societal conditioning, leading to a sense of invisibility in their personal lives.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a particular stillness that arrives in your 40s when you realize that the people who were supposed to approve of your choices never actually had a vote, and most of the exhaustion of the previous decade was the cost of campaigning in an election that didn't exist. - Silicon Canals

Realization in midlife reveals that the pursuit of approval was often imaginary, leading to self-acceptance and a shift in identity.
Books
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 week ago

On Memoir by Blake Morrison review lessons in life writing from a master

Life writing encompasses personal and collective experiences, requiring careful navigation of emotions and events.
fromIndependent
2 days ago

'I'd feel like a voyeur in another world' - Wicklow cancer survivor on novel she started from hospital bed

Asking for a laptop as she lay in a hospital bed during a frightening cancer ordeal, Wicklow woman Elaine Murphy could hardly have imagined that those first taps on the keyboard would lead to her debut work of fiction, See No Evil, Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil, a Garden County mystery born from the darkest chapter of her life.
Writing
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the reason so many people crash emotionally in their early 60s isn't retirement or aging - it's the first time in decades they've had enough silence to hear their own thoughts and they don't recognize the person thinking them - Silicon Canals

Highly functional individuals often face delayed emotional collapse in their sixties due to decades of avoidance and relentless life pressures.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and my son asked me what I'd do differently if I could live my life again and I said "nothing" and it's the most dishonest thing I've said in years - because the real answer involves a girl from 1984 and a job I should have taken and a conversation with my father I should have had before the stroke made it impossible, but you don't hand that list to your child because it rewrites the math that led to him - Silicon Canals

Life is messy, filled with wrong turns and missed chances, contrary to the notion that every choice leads to a perfect outcome.
#masculinity
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals

Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals

Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals

Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals

Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
more#masculinity
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I've realized that there's a specific kind of exhaustion that belongs to people who spent four decades being the one who always said yes - it doesn't show up as burnout, it shows up as a faint feeling that your life belongs to everyone except you - Silicon Canals

Burnout stems from a lack of personal agency, not just exhaustion from overcommitment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says people who constantly apologize for things that aren't their fault aren't being polite. They grew up in an environment where someone else's bad mood was always their responsibility to fix - Silicon Canals

Over-apologizing often stems from childhood experiences that teach individuals to manage others' emotions, leading to chronic self-blame and anxiety.
Cancer
fromIndependent
3 weeks ago

'Writing allows me to face what is happening now. And what is happening now is that I'm dying'

Gabriel Rosenstock faces mortality with peace, relying on poetry and philosophy for support during his battle with terminal cancer.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Writing
fromBig Think
4 days ago

Jan Morris, and the struggle between coherence and uncovering another's inner life

Jan Morris's unique perspective as a writer reflects her experiences of transition and historical events, revealing universal themes of addiction and identity.
Books
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Coping With the Up-and-Down Arc of a Prolific Writer's Life

Merrill Joan Gerber's latest book reflects her writing journey from the 1960s to the present, showcasing selected stories from her extensive career.
Digital life
fromFast Company
4 weeks ago

Is AI killing the human voice in writing?

Predictive language technologies challenge individual expression by influencing how writers generate and complete their thoughts.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

We boomers were handed a very clear script for what a successful life was supposed to look like, and a lot of us followed it - only to find that from the inside, it felt like wearing someone else's coat for thirty years. - Silicon Canals

Following a prescribed life script can lead to feelings of living someone else's life despite achieving traditional success.
US news
fromHuffPost
4 weeks ago

'I'm Not A Monster,' My Mom Sobbed On The Phone. I Never Thought We'd Get To This Place.

A mother and daughter navigate a complex relationship, highlighted by a book reflecting on their struggles with body image and expectations.
Books
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 weeks ago

Enough of this me me me': Blake Morrison on memoir in the age of oversharing

Memoirs have evolved to embrace candor and vulnerability, allowing anyone to share their personal stories of trauma and identity.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

I've spent my entire life being described as "the strong one" - and last month I sat in my car in a parking lot and cried for 45 minutes, and the thing that made me cry hardest was that there was no one to call - Silicon Canals

Feeling isolated and vulnerable can be overwhelming, especially when one has always been the strong support for others.
#solitude
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Research suggests that people who say they prefer being alone aren't always telling the truth. Many of them preferred connection until it repeatedly disappointed them, and solitude became the story they told to make the disappointment portable. - Silicon Canals

Solitude is often misinterpreted as a preference, when it may actually be an adaptation to past relational failures.
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago
Writing

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Research suggests that people who say they prefer being alone aren't always telling the truth. Many of them preferred connection until it repeatedly disappointed them, and solitude became the story they told to make the disappointment portable. - Silicon Canals

Solitude is often misinterpreted as a preference, when it may actually be an adaptation to past relational failures.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
more#solitude
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals

People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.
Writing
fromDefector
1 week ago

Why Would You Ask AI To Tell The Story Of Your Own Life? | Defector

Writing is a challenging profession with many aspiring writers and few opportunities for steady income.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

The people who talk about their childhood like it was fine but can't remember most of it aren't lying. The absence of memory and the absence of trauma feel identical from the inside until something cracks the seal, and by then the person has built an entire adult identity on the version where nothing happened. - Silicon Canals

Childhood amnesia affects memory retention, leading to a lack of vivid recollections from early years despite having a normal upbringing.
Books
fromPsychology Today
3 weeks ago

Fiction Is Indispensable to Life's Journey

Fiction is essential for emotional connection, learning, and social cognition, allowing us to escape reality and engage deeply with narratives.
#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who randomly cringe at past memories have a level of self-awareness that most people never develop - because the cringe only exists when a person is emotionally intelligent enough to look back at who they were and recognize the distance between that version of themselves and the one standing here now, and that distance is called growth even when it feels like shame - Silicon Canals

Cringing at past actions signifies emotional growth and self-reflection, indicating a recognition of personal development over time.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the people who seem impossible to offend aren't thick-skinned. They decided long ago that showing hurt gives others a map they haven't earned, so they absorb the wound and reclassify it as information - Silicon Canals

Emotional toughness often masks deep sensitivity, leading individuals to absorb pain without showing it, as vulnerability can be weaponized by others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says people who randomly cringe at past memories have a level of self-awareness that most people never develop - because the cringe only exists when a person is emotionally intelligent enough to look back at who they were and recognize the distance between that version of themselves and the one standing here now, and that distance is called growth even when it feels like shame - Silicon Canals

Cringing at past actions signifies emotional growth and self-reflection, indicating a recognition of personal development over time.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology says the people who seem impossible to offend aren't thick-skinned. They decided long ago that showing hurt gives others a map they haven't earned, so they absorb the wound and reclassify it as information - Silicon Canals

Emotional toughness often masks deep sensitivity, leading individuals to absorb pain without showing it, as vulnerability can be weaponized by others.
more#emotional-intelligence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

There's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals

Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
Artificial intelligence
fromThe Atlantic
1 month ago

The Human Skill That Eludes AI

Generative AI has paradoxically declined in creative writing quality since GPT-2, despite advancing in technical capabilities, with current models producing formulaic, flawed prose despite access to centuries of literature.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

I asked my mother what she thinks about when she looks at old photographs of herself and she said "I think about how worried I was and how little of it mattered" - and the simplicity of that sentence from a woman who spent decades carrying everything has been sitting in my chest for three weeks because it contains a permission I'm not sure I'm brave enough to take yet - Silicon Canals

Worry often consumes energy without yielding significant outcomes, highlighting the importance of action over inaction.
fromemptywheel
2 months ago

How Do You Want Your Family to Remember You? - emptywheel

The Stasi, the secret police, were legendary for their data files. Their work was based on instilling fear, and they induced stunningly amazing numbers of East Germans into informing on their neighbors. Something along the lines of 1 in 6 East Germans were informants, whether out of fear or out of approval of what the East German government was doing.
US politics
Social justice
fromMedium
3 years ago

Confessions of a Race Writer

Race writers risk performing a narrowed, victimized 'blackness' while often holding privilege and a platform to speak for marginalized people.
Philosophy
fromAeon
2 months ago

Sure, AI can 'do' writing. But memoir? Not so much | Aeon Essays

Poetry and creative expression served as decisive tests for distinguishing human from machine intelligence via the imitation game.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Shift That Happens When You Write a Non-Fiction Book

Writing a book transforms tacit knowledge into explicit frameworks, forcing experts to articulate intuitions they've developed through experience into clear, communicable ideas.
fromThe Atlantic
2 months ago

A Biography Without 'The Boring Bits'

Sophia Stewart poses a choice that many biographers struggle with: "what to do with the boring bits."
Books
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

When Telling Your Story Costs You

DID is an adaptive, trauma-based survival response, not spectacle; media interviews often violate survivors' boundaries, causing harm and unequal power dynamics.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

What Story Are You Telling Yourself?

Personal narrative, shaped by caregivers and experiences, defines worldview, governing assumptions, ambitions, expectations, and therefore determines actions and potential achievements.
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