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#lgbtq
Non-profit organizations
fromBoston.com
1 day agoLGBTQ+ immigrant organization returns grant money to Boston after media firestorm, death threats
The Wu administration rejected funding for OUTnewcomers, stating it did not align with intended use, leading to the organization's decision to return the funds.
#aging
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoPsychology says the most isolating part of getting older isn't having fewer people around you - it's having fewer people who knew you when you were whole and fast and full of plans, because the version of you that exists in other people's memory is shrinking at the same rate as the guest list, and one day you'll be the only person alive who remembers what you were capable of - Silicon Canals
The hardest part of aging is losing connections to those who remember different versions of ourselves.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNobody tells you that one of the cruelest parts of aging is becoming invisible in rooms you used to command - I walked into a meeting last year as a consultant and a young man looked right through me to greet the person behind me, and I stood there holding 40 years of expertise in a body he had already decided had nothing to offer, and that single moment taught me more about getting old than any birthday ever has - Silicon Canals
Aging can lead to feeling invisible and undervalued in professional settings, despite years of experience.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour agoPsychology says people who find genuine peace after 60 didn't get there by solving their problems - they got there by finally accepting which ones were never going to be solved and releasing the grip they'd been keeping on a version of life that was never coming, and that surrender isn't giving up, it's the first honest breath most people take in decades - Silicon Canals
Letting go of alternate lives and accepting the past brings peace as one ages.
#friendship
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoPsychology says people who reach their 60s without close friends aren't the ones who lost everyone along the way - many of them made a series of quiet, deliberate choices over decades to stop investing in relationships that required them to perform, accommodate, or shrink, and what looks like loneliness from the outside is often the result of finally choosing themselves - Silicon Canals
Many older adults choose solitude over draining relationships, prioritizing deeper connections over maintaining superficial friendships.
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology
I'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoPsychology says people who reach their 60s without close friends aren't the ones who lost everyone along the way - many of them made a series of quiet, deliberate choices over decades to stop investing in relationships that required them to perform, accommodate, or shrink, and what looks like loneliness from the outside is often the result of finally choosing themselves - Silicon Canals
Many older adults choose solitude over draining relationships, prioritizing deeper connections over maintaining superficial friendships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals
Friendships often end not due to change, but when one person stops the emotional labor that sustains them.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPeople don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals
People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoPsychology says adult children don't grieve their aging parents all at once - they grieve them in a thousand tiny deaths, like the first time your mother forgets she told you the same story twice, or the afternoon you notice your father's hands shaking when he signs his name - Silicon Canals
Anticipatory grief involves mourning the gradual changes in living parents, representing incremental losses rather than just preparing for death.
#retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoRetirement
I'm 66 and the loneliest I have ever felt in my life wasn't when I lost my parents or when my kids moved away - it was the first winter of retirement when I realized my entire social world had been held together by a building I no longer had a reason to enter - Silicon Canals
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoRetirement
Psychology suggests retirees who become genuinely exhausting to be around are almost never aware they're doing it - because the crankiness is grief wearing a disguise and the neediness is loneliness knocking on the only doors still open, and neither one feels like a choice from the inside - Silicon Canals
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and the loneliest I have ever felt in my life wasn't when I lost my parents or when my kids moved away - it was the first winter of retirement when I realized my entire social world had been held together by a building I no longer had a reason to enter - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to unexpected loneliness as social connections tied to work diminish.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology suggests retirees who become genuinely exhausting to be around are almost never aware they're doing it - because the crankiness is grief wearing a disguise and the neediness is loneliness knocking on the only doors still open, and neither one feels like a choice from the inside - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to unexpected grief and identity loss, resulting in irritability and strained relationships.
Social justice
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 days agoA gay bar kicked out a wheelchair user as a "fire risk." Her response forced the bar to make amends. - LGBTQ Nation
Club Tropicana in Manchester apologized to Maddie Haining after discriminating against her as a wheelchair user, violating U.K. disability access laws.
London politics
fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news
1 day agoThe absurd story of the UK lesbianism ban that never was - and why it was scrapped
In 1921, British lawmakers considered criminalizing lesbianism but ultimately rejected the idea, fearing it would increase lesbian identities.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoI've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals
Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.
Education
fromIndependent
2 days agoAn Irish Goodbye... from Phuket: 'I feel like Thailand is one of the best countries in the world to live in as a gay woman'
Victoria St Leger transitioned from teaching in Ireland to exploring opportunities abroad, realizing the excitement of life in different countries.
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals
The identity had become so central to who I thought I was that letting it go felt like admitting that entire chapter of my life had been pointless.
Bootstrapping
fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news
4 days agoWhat happens when LGBTQ+ couples get a divorce - finances and rights explained
Divorce for LGBTQ+ couples is legally the same as for heterosexual couples, thanks to the introduction of no-fault divorce under the Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Act 2020. This change has made the process less acrimonious, allowing couples to confirm that their marriage has irretrievably broken down without the need for blame.
Law
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoPsychology says the reason so many people crash emotionally in their early 60s isn't retirement or aging - it's the first time in decades they've had enough silence to hear their own thoughts and they don't recognize the person thinking them - Silicon Canals
Highly functional individuals often face delayed emotional collapse in their sixties due to decades of avoidance and relentless life pressures.
#masculinity
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI want to say something that my generation rarely says out loud: being tough your whole life doesn't actually protect you from loneliness - it just means you're better at hiding it from everyone, including yourself - Silicon Canals
Being tough can lead to loneliness and isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI grew up in a family where asking for help was the same as admitting weakness - and now I'm 66 and sitting alone with problems I don't know how to solve because I never learned how to say "I'm struggling" - Silicon Canals
Asking for help is often perceived as a weakness, rooted in deep-seated beliefs about masculinity and self-reliance.
SF LGBT
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 hour agoLesbians are reclaiming Madonna as we await her new album, Confessions on a Dance Floor: Part II | Tiff Bakker
Madonna's Instagram purge sparked excitement for the imminent release of Confessions on a Dance Floor: Part II, highlighting her enduring connection with the LGBTQ+ community.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoWe boomers were handed a very clear script for what a successful life was supposed to look like, and a lot of us followed it - only to find that from the inside, it felt like wearing someone else's coat for thirty years. - Silicon Canals
Following a prescribed life script can lead to feelings of living someone else's life despite achieving traditional success.
#parenting
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
22 hours agoI'm 66 and I stopped calling my kids first - and the silence showed me something I didn't want to see: the closeness I felt was something I had been quietly maintaining all along - Silicon Canals
The experiment revealed that the author was the primary initiator in maintaining relationships with their adult children.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThere's a specific kind of person who volunteers the embarrassing story about themselves before anyone else can bring it up, and it isn't self-deprecation. It's copyright. If they tell it first, they get to decide what it means. - Silicon Canals
Claiming the narrative of an embarrassing story prevents others from defining its meaning, rather than demonstrating humility.
Careers
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI was always the reliable one - the one who showed up, remembered, rearranged, and absorbed - and it took me until 58 to wonder whether anyone would have come looking if I'd stopped - Silicon Canals
Being the reliable one can lead to personal neglect and invisibility in relationships.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoMost men who grew up in the 1960s and 70s were taught that admitting you needed help was a character flaw. Finally, we are discovering that openness has its own kind of strength. - Silicon Canals
Men are taught to suppress emotions, leading to loneliness and health issues.
SF LGBT
fromPinkNews | Latest lesbian, gay, bi and trans news | LGBTQ+ news
2 days agoBeyond 'fetish': Why queer women find sanctuary in M/M romance
Male/Male romances provide queer women a joyful, safe space for emotional connection and intimacy, free from societal expectations and anxieties about representation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe forgotten generation isn't the young people struggling to find their place in the world - it's the retirees sitting in fully paid-off houses with lifetimes of experience, waiting for a phone call that the modern world no longer knows it's supposed to make - Silicon Canals
Older adults possess valuable experience but are often overlooked and isolated in contemporary society.
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
3 days agoThe Right Thinks I Don't Exist. The Left Thinks I'm a Liability. I'm Just Trying to Figure Out How to Live.
Transgender individuals in America face increasing legislative attacks, yet embracing authenticity and gender expansiveness is crucial for survival and fulfillment.
#self-acceptance
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals
People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the most dangerous form of loneliness isn't being alone. It's being surrounded by people while performing a version of yourself that none of them would recognize if they saw you at home on a Sunday afternoon. - Silicon Canals
The gap between one's public persona and private self creates a profound sense of loneliness.
fromQueerty
4 days agoSpectacle or support? The complicated visibility of trans youth in film & TV - Queerty
Since the 1990s, a largely underground upwelling of trans creativity has helped new trans identities, communities, and political movements come together. Trans Cinema provides an entryway to the wildly diverse and creative cinema made by trans creators, including those who are BIPOC.
LGBT
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThere's a version of strength that only develops in people who had to figure out the rules of a place nobody explained to them. They don't talk about it because the people who had the rules handed to them wouldn't understand what was hard about it, and the people who also had to figure it out don't need the explanation. - Silicon Canals
Onsighting in climbing parallels navigating social systems, emphasizing perceptual capacity over resilience in understanding unwritten rules.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology says the happiest people over 70 don't actually 'stay young' - they've learned to stop measuring their worth against a version of themselves that no longer exists - Silicon Canals
Happiness is not a destination; pursuing it can lead to disappointment and lower well-being.
LGBT
fromLGBTQ Nation
1 month agoLearning to accept herself as a bi, trans woman only took some space... and Pride patches - LGBTQ Nation
Van's journey from hiding her bisexuality to openly embracing her trans identity demonstrates how community support enables self-acceptance and resilience against family disapproval.
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