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Women in technology

I Had a Fun Surprise Waiting in My Pants for My New Girlfriend. It Freaked Her Out.

I'm 66 and I've watched myself become distant from people I genuinely care about - not because I stopped loving them, but because somewhere in my sixties I realized that most of my relationships were being kept alive by effort that only moved in one direction - Silicon Canals

Relationships often require one-sided effort, leading to realizations about who truly values the connection.

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.

I have just one secret from my husband. If he reads this, even that will be gone | Emma Beddington

Secrets in relationships can be both harmful and beneficial, depending on their nature and impact on psychological wellbeing.

I'm in my 30s and I recently realized that every relationship I called easy was actually just a relationship where I did all the adjusting. Easy never meant compatible. It meant I had become so skilled at reshaping myself that friction disappeared, and I mistook the absence of friction for the presence of love. - Silicon Canals

Effortless relationships can mask deeper issues, often leading to self-erasure rather than true compatibility.

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I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.

Women in technology

I Had a Fun Surprise Waiting in My Pants for My New Girlfriend. It Freaked Her Out.

Waxing can be interpreted through cultural and personal lenses, affecting perceptions in relationships.

I'm 66 and I've watched myself become distant from people I genuinely care about - not because I stopped loving them, but because somewhere in my sixties I realized that most of my relationships were being kept alive by effort that only moved in one direction - Silicon Canals

Relationships often require one-sided effort, leading to realizations about who truly values the connection.

Why We Stay in Relationships That Subtly Erode Us

Incrementally diminishing relationships persist due to human attachment to unpredictability and familiarity, despite emotional neglect and pain.

I have just one secret from my husband. If he reads this, even that will be gone | Emma Beddington

Secrets in relationships can be both harmful and beneficial, depending on their nature and impact on psychological wellbeing.

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I'm in my 30s and I recently realized that every relationship I called easy was actually just a relationship where I did all the adjusting. Easy never meant compatible. It meant I had become so skilled at reshaping myself that friction disappeared, and I mistook the absence of friction for the presence of love. - Silicon Canals

Effortless relationships can mask deeper issues, often leading to self-erasure rather than true compatibility.

The Human Drive to Explore

Curiosity drives exploration of both the universe and our inner selves, linking science, art, and well-being.

SF LGBT

14 hours ago

Beyond 'fetish': Why queer women find sanctuary in M/M romance

Male/Male romances provide queer women a joyful, safe space for emotional connection and intimacy, free from societal expectations and anxieties about representation.

Writing

8 hours ago

Why Kindness Takes Bravery

Kindness involves taking risks and accepting the possibility of getting it wrong.

Research suggests that people who say they prefer being alone aren't always telling the truth. Many of them preferred connection until it repeatedly disappointed them, and solitude became the story they told to make the disappointment portable. - Silicon Canals

Solitude is often misinterpreted as a preference, when it may actually be an adaptation to past relational failures.

Psychology says people who genuinely prefer being alone aren't antisocial or damaged - they've simply discovered that their own inner world is more honest, more interesting, and less exhausting than most rooms full of people, and that realization doesn't make them lonely, it makes them selective - Silicon Canals

People who prefer solitude are motivated by internal rewards and find fulfillment in solitary activities rather than social interactions.

Research suggests that people who say they prefer being alone aren't always telling the truth. Many of them preferred connection until it repeatedly disappointed them, and solitude became the story they told to make the disappointment portable. - Silicon Canals

Solitude is often misinterpreted as a preference, when it may actually be an adaptation to past relational failures.

Psychology says people who genuinely prefer being alone aren't antisocial or damaged - they've simply discovered that their own inner world is more honest, more interesting, and less exhausting than most rooms full of people, and that realization doesn't make them lonely, it makes them selective - Silicon Canals

People who prefer solitude are motivated by internal rewards and find fulfillment in solitary activities rather than social interactions.

I've stopped being angry that my adult children rarely call, because I finally understand they're not ignoring me - they're just living the life I worked my whole career to give them, and that's both the proudest and loneliest thought I've ever had - Silicon Canals

Children are overwhelmed with responsibilities, not neglecting their parents.

Film

23 hours ago

Marriage and Disconnection: Lessons From 'Is This Thing On?'

Marriage requires ongoing effort, and some divorces may be unnecessary due to misattributed dissatisfaction between partners.

#loneliness

Mental health

Psychology says the most dangerous form of loneliness isn't being alone. It's being surrounded by people while performing a version of yourself that none of them would recognize if they saw you at home on a Sunday afternoon. - Silicon Canals

Loneliness doesn't always look like an empty room. Sometimes it looks like a person who laughs at every joke, remembers every birthday, shows up at every event, and drives home afterward in total silence wondering why none of it ever reaches the part of them that's still starving. - Silicon Canals

Social starvation and social performance can coexist, leading to a deeper crisis of loneliness that isn't solely defined by the absence of social contact.

Somewhere around 55 a man realizes that every friend he has is actually his wife's friend's husband, and if the dinner invitations ever stopped coming, he would not have a single person to call, and he knows this, and he has never said it out loud - Silicon Canals

Loneliness in men often increases with age, despite societal beliefs that marriage and family provide social fulfillment.

Relationships

The cruelest form of loneliness isn't having nobody. It's having people who love you in a way that doesn't quite reach the part of you that needs reaching, so you feel guilty for still being hungry at a table that everyone else thinks is full. - Silicon Canals

Psychology says the most dangerous form of loneliness isn't being alone. It's being surrounded by people while performing a version of yourself that none of them would recognize if they saw you at home on a Sunday afternoon. - Silicon Canals

The gap between one's public persona and private self creates a profound sense of loneliness.

Loneliness doesn't always look like an empty room. Sometimes it looks like a person who laughs at every joke, remembers every birthday, shows up at every event, and drives home afterward in total silence wondering why none of it ever reaches the part of them that's still starving. - Silicon Canals

Social starvation and social performance can coexist, leading to a deeper crisis of loneliness that isn't solely defined by the absence of social contact.

Somewhere around 55 a man realizes that every friend he has is actually his wife's friend's husband, and if the dinner invitations ever stopped coming, he would not have a single person to call, and he knows this, and he has never said it out loud - Silicon Canals

Loneliness in men often increases with age, despite societal beliefs that marriage and family provide social fulfillment.

The cruelest form of loneliness isn't having nobody. It's having people who love you in a way that doesn't quite reach the part of you that needs reaching, so you feel guilty for still being hungry at a table that everyone else thinks is full. - Silicon Canals

Loneliness can persist even in loving relationships when emotional needs remain unmet and unexpressed.

Psychology says people who can walk away from an argument without needing the last word aren't passive or weak - they've learned that some people don't argue to understand, they argue to win, and disengaging from a game that was never designed to have a fair outcome is one of the most sophisticated emotional skills a person can develop, even though it almost always gets mistaken for not caring - Silicon Canals

Walking away from unproductive arguments reflects wisdom, not weakness, and is essential for emotional health.

The reason some men never move forward in life has nothing to do with motivation or discipline - it's that they built their entire identity around a version of themselves that stopped being true years ago, and starting over feels like admitting it was all wasted - Silicon Canals

The identity had become so central to who I thought I was that letting it go felt like admitting that entire chapter of my life had been pointless.

Bootstrapping

Careers

fromFast Company

How new perspectives come from moonwalking

Gravity serves as a metaphor for cultural forces that shape organizational dynamics and individual experiences.

Privacy technologies

Let's Rethink the "Doomer" Label

Labeling AI critics as 'doomers' hinders essential discussions about the technology's risks and impacts on human connection.

Arts

Art, sex, nature: why is everything sold to us as a means to an end, rather than an end in itself?

Art should be valued for its own sake, not merely for its utilitarian benefits or health claims.

She Taught Women How to Orgasm. Decades Later, Her Impact Can Still Be Felt.

Hite learned early on that women walk a sexual tightrope: 'If you had too much sex, you could be shunned like her mother was; if you didn't have enough, you could be deserted like her grandmother.'

Books

9 hours ago

The Minute This Sex Toy Enters the Bedroom, My Night Is Ruined

Using vibrators during sex can create challenges for tops seeking satisfaction and connection with their partners.

SF LGBT

8 hours ago

Let's talk about sex in a world of porn | Letter

Straight male authors should embrace writing about sex, but the urgent conversation on sexual knowledge and pleasure is happening outside of literature.

Philosophy

6 hours ago

What AI Can't Calculate About a Human Life

Human life is a singular, unrepeatable event, contrasting with AI's reliance on patterns and probabilities.

9 hours ago

Psst off: how keeping secrets can harm your wellbeing

Keeping secrets is psychologically costly and can have negative consequences on wellbeing.

Psychology suggests men who are deeply unhappy in life but hide it well aren't being strong - they're running a performance that costs them every real connection they have, and the people closest to them almost never see it coming - Silicon Canals

Men often mask their depression with busyness and distraction, making it difficult to recognize their true emotional state.

From Despair to Strength: What One Man's Survival Teaches Us

Acceptance of emotions empowers change, while avoidance leads to disconnection and suffering.

Why I Let My Kids See My Sadness Now (After Hiding It for Years) - Tiny Buddha

Embracing vulnerability allows deeper connections with loved ones, as hiding emotions can create barriers instead of fostering understanding and support.

I'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals

True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.

Parenting

fromTiny Buddha

Why I Let My Kids See My Sadness Now (After Hiding It for Years) - Tiny Buddha

Embracing vulnerability allows deeper connections with loved ones, as hiding emotions can create barriers instead of fostering understanding and support.

I'm 37 and I finally figured out that vulnerability isn't saying something brave in a room full of strangers - it's telling the person who matters most that you're not okay and meaning it - Silicon Canals

True vulnerability is sharing fears with those who matter, not just public displays of emotional openness.

I'm 66 and I no longer spend any energy on people who make me feel like I have to earn my place in the room - not because I became cold, but because I finally understood that ease is not a low standard, it is the only standard that matters at this stage, and the people who meet it know who they are and so do I - Silicon Canals

Realizing the exhaustion of constantly proving oneself can lead to a liberating shift in perspective and relationships.

Psychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals

People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.

Careers

I'm 66 and I no longer spend any energy on people who make me feel like I have to earn my place in the room - not because I became cold, but because I finally understood that ease is not a low standard, it is the only standard that matters at this stage, and the people who meet it know who they are and so do I - Silicon Canals

Realizing the exhaustion of constantly proving oneself can lead to a liberating shift in perspective and relationships.

Psychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals

People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.

Do You See Yourself in a Story?

Comic books have evolved into a serious medium for exploring trauma and psychological depth, exemplified by works like Maus.

The Risk of Asking for What You Want in Bed

Asking for new sexual behaviors reveals deeper parts of oneself and requires courage, especially in long-term relationships.

11 hours ago

Psychology says true introverts don't hate people - they hate the performance of people, the small talk that circles the runway and never lands - Silicon Canals

Introverts often enjoy social interactions but feel drained by superficial conversations and social performances without substance.

#love

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Philosophy

The Possibility of Love at First Sight

Relationships

How to Be an Apprentice to Love

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Philosophy

The Possibility of Love at First Sight

Relationships

How to Be an Apprentice to Love

I turned 34 before I finally understood: no one is on their way to rescue you, no one is tallying your effort, and life doesn't wait for you to feel ready - it just keeps moving without you - Silicon Canals

Success is not guaranteed by effort alone; waiting for recognition can lead to disappointment.

When Love Becomes a Question You Can't Stop Asking

Relationship OCD reflects growing anxiety around love and attachment, emphasizing the need to tolerate doubt to alleviate relationship-related anxiety.

I'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end not due to change, but when one person stops the emotional labor that sustains them.

14 hours ago

People don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals

People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.

Name one person who knows what you're actually going through right now. Not the curated version. The real one. If it took you more than three seconds, that's not a failure of friendship - that's the architecture of modern adulthood working exactly as designed - Silicon Canals

Friendships in adulthood are endangered due to the challenges of fostering new connections and renegotiating old ones.

Psychology says good people with no close friends aren't the difficult ones - they're the ones who asked too little, gave too readily, made themselves so easy to be around that nobody ever felt the particular friction that closeness actually requires - Silicon Canals

Being overly agreeable can lead to loneliness, as it prevents deeper connections and true closeness in friendships.

21 hours ago

I'm in my thirties and I finally understand that the friendships I lost weren't lost because I changed. They were lost because I stopped performing the version of me that made the relationship possible, and nobody told me that was what had been holding it together - Silicon Canals

Friendships often end not due to change, but when one person stops the emotional labor that sustains them.

14 hours ago

People don't stay in friendships they've outgrown because they're weak - they stay because identity is bound up in being the kind of person who doesn't abandon people - Silicon Canals

People stay in outgrown friendships due to their identity being tied to the idea of not leaving, not out of cowardice or weakness.

Name one person who knows what you're actually going through right now. Not the curated version. The real one. If it took you more than three seconds, that's not a failure of friendship - that's the architecture of modern adulthood working exactly as designed - Silicon Canals

Friendships in adulthood are endangered due to the challenges of fostering new connections and renegotiating old ones.

Psychology says good people with no close friends aren't the difficult ones - they're the ones who asked too little, gave too readily, made themselves so easy to be around that nobody ever felt the particular friction that closeness actually requires - Silicon Canals

Being overly agreeable can lead to loneliness, as it prevents deeper connections and true closeness in friendships.

How Storytelling Informs Relationships

Complexity involves understanding interdependence and multiple perspectives, essential for resolving conflicts and nurturing relationships.

Psychology says people who describe themselves as self-sufficient aren't always describing a strength. Sometimes they're describing the scar tissue that formed where the need for other people used to be, and they've carried it so long they genuinely mistake the numbness for peace. - Silicon Canals

Self-reliance is often mistaken for strength, but true strength includes the ability to seek help and share vulnerabilities.

Why My Wife Is Smarter Than Me When It Matters Most

Fast thinking can lead to mistakes; emotional control and practiced restraint improve decision-making.

The Courage to Not Know Yet

Fast decisions driven by fear limit perspective; slowing down reveals values and leads to better long-term choices.

Why My Wife Is Smarter Than Me When It Matters Most

Fast thinking can lead to mistakes; emotional control and practiced restraint improve decision-making.

The Courage to Not Know Yet

Fast decisions driven by fear limit perspective; slowing down reveals values and leads to better long-term choices.

What Happens When a Couple Opens Their Relationship?

1 in 5 adults have experienced a sexually open relationship, with increased sexual satisfaction reported.

10 hours ago

3 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Judgment

Fear of negative evaluation can be reduced by focusing on values rather than self-monitoring during social interactions.

Philosophy

fromThe Atlantic

The Eighth Deadly Sin

The modern experience of disconnection and emptiness may represent a new form of sin, akin to the medieval concept of acedia.

2 hours ago

Mastering the Art of Relationship Repair

Conflict is inevitable in relationships; managing and repairing it is essential for emotional survival and intimacy.

Women in technology

3 weeks ago

The Revolutionary Power of Romantic Love

Romantic love has significantly influenced social structures and gender equality, acting as a transformative force in societies.

When Stress Becomes the Third Partner in a Relationship

Chronic stress can diminish emotional connection between partners, leading to feelings of isolation.

6 days ago

You Are Not a Project to Be Improved

Self-improvement can lead to anxiety and disconnection from genuine human connection.

Why Romantic Chemistry Can Be a Red Flag

Instant chemistry often signals potential heartache rather than a fulfilling romantic relationship.

fromScary Mommy

What It Means If You Only Get Turned On By One Specific Thing

Relying on one specific turn-on can limit sexual arousal and flexibility.

Psychology says people who make others light up when they first meet them have usually known what it feels like to be overlooked - and instead of becoming bitter about it, they made a quiet decision at some point in their life that no one in their presence would ever feel that invisible again, and that choice is one of the most powerful things a human being can do with their own pain - Silicon Canals

Warm individuals often transform their experiences of invisibility into empathy, making others feel valued and seen.

3 Things You Can Learn About Yourself Without Therapy

Humans can effectively engage in emotional regulation and self-reflection without the need for therapy.

There's a generation of men who express love exclusively through logistics - the tire is changed, the bill is paid, the shelf is fixed - and there's a generation of their partners who spent decades wondering why the logistics never felt like enough and the answer is that service without presence is maintenance not intimacy - Silicon Canals

Men often express love through actions rather than emotional connection, leading to feelings of loneliness in relationships.

#emotional-intelligence

Psychology says the people who seem impossible to offend aren't thick-skinned. They decided long ago that showing hurt gives others a map they haven't earned, so they absorb the wound and reclassify it as information - Silicon Canals

Emotional toughness often masks deep sensitivity, leading individuals to absorb pain without showing it, as vulnerability can be weaponized by others.

Psychology says people who randomly cringe at past memories have a level of self-awareness that most people never develop - because the cringe only exists when a person is emotionally intelligent enough to look back at who they were and recognize the distance between that version of themselves and the one standing here now, and that distance is called growth even when it feels like shame - Silicon Canals

Cringing at past actions signifies emotional growth and self-reflection, indicating a recognition of personal development over time.

Psychology says the people who seem impossible to offend aren't thick-skinned. They decided long ago that showing hurt gives others a map they haven't earned, so they absorb the wound and reclassify it as information - Silicon Canals

Emotional toughness often masks deep sensitivity, leading individuals to absorb pain without showing it, as vulnerability can be weaponized by others.

more#emotional-intelligence

Psychology says people who randomly cringe at past memories have a level of self-awareness that most people never develop - because the cringe only exists when a person is emotionally intelligent enough to look back at who they were and recognize the distance between that version of themselves and the one standing here now, and that distance is called growth even when it feels like shame - Silicon Canals

Cringing at past actions signifies emotional growth and self-reflection, indicating a recognition of personal development over time.

Why You Feel Empty After Achieving Your Goals

The arrival fallacy explains post-achievement emptiness, revealing that many goals are inherited rather than authentically chosen.

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People Who've Been In 'Poly Under Duress' Relationships Share What It's Really Like

Polyamory is often entered into under pressure rather than genuine interest, as highlighted by celebrity experiences.

There's a specific kind of person who can give the most precise, compassionate advice to everyone around them and then make the worst possible decisions for their own life. The clarity isn't selective. It's that they can only see patterns when they're not standing inside them. - Silicon Canals

People excel at identifying cognitive biases in others but struggle to recognize them in themselves, leading to a phenomenon called the bias blind spot.

fromScary Mommy

If Your Man Refuses To Go Down On You, Stop Giving Him Blowjobs

Unequal expectations in sexual pleasure can lead to dissatisfaction in relationships.

3 Downsides of Being the "Easy" Partner

Being 'easy to be with' can lead to hidden psychological costs, including loss of personal preferences and self-silencing.

Placeholder partners: are you the one' or just being used as a stopgap?

Placeholder partners are temporary relationships where one person believes they have a future together, but the other does not.

Don't Let the Dating Market Turn You Into a Product

Dating apps create a dilemma between standing out quickly and showing depth, impacting perceptions of long-term suitability.

What if Your "Type" Is Just Unfinished Business?

Sexual imprinting influences adult attraction based on early relational experiences with caregivers and emotional dynamics in childhood.

Psychology says people who are single in their 40s aren't commitment-phobic or too picky-they've developed a relationship with solitude that makes most partnerships feel like a downgrade, and that realization changes what loneliness actually means - Silicon Canals

Mid-life singlehood can lead to positive solitude, fostering personal growth and autonomy rather than loneliness.

Psychology says the people who are genuinely magnetic in conversation aren't the ones with the most interesting stories - they're the ones who've learned to make the person in front of them feel like the most interesting person in the room, and that specific skill has almost nothing to do with what you say - Silicon Canals

Magnetic people are those who listen actively rather than those who dominate conversations.

Psychology says people who were the emotional anchor for their families rarely experience loneliness as a single event. They experience it as a slow accounting where they realize the support only ever flowed in one direction and nobody designed a return current. - Silicon Canals

Family support often flows in one direction, with one person bearing the emotional load while others remain uninvolved.

fromPortland Mercury

SAVAGE LOVE: Outward Bound - Portland Mercury

Kink compatibility is essential in relationships; if one partner is unwilling to engage, it may be time to reconsider the relationship.

LGBT

I'm Having Great Sex With a Beautiful Woman. If Only She Knew What I Was Thinking About During It.

A person in a new stable relationship experiences intrusive sexual memories of a previous male partner, causing uncertainty about sexual orientation and presence during sex.

#relationship-dynamics

The Surprising Truth About Partners Who Never Argue

Conflict-free relationships may indicate underlying issues rather than compatibility, as open discussions about differences strengthen bonds.

6 days ago

The couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals

The quality of repair after conflict is more crucial for relationship longevity than the frequency or severity of conflicts.

The Surprising Truth About Partners Who Never Argue

Conflict-free relationships may indicate underlying issues rather than compatibility, as open discussions about differences strengthen bonds.

more#relationship-dynamics

6 days ago

The couples who last aren't the ones who never hurt each other. They're the ones who developed a shared language for repair that both people trust, and the language matters more than the injury because injury is inevitable and repair is chosen. - Silicon Canals

The quality of repair after conflict is more crucial for relationship longevity than the frequency or severity of conflicts.

Why Feeling Heard Can Make or Break a Relationship

Genuine listening is essential in relationships, fostering emotional safety and connection over quick advice or analysis.

fromThe Gottman Institute

What Is a Lavender Marriage? Can It Really Work?

Lavender marriages are unions between heterosexual and LGBTQ+ individuals, created for public image and personal survival, not romance.

A Liberating New Approach to Dating For Lonely Women

Midlife women are redefining dating by prioritizing self-worth and seeking resonance over traditional relationship norms.

Why Deep People Struggle in Modern Relationships

Modern dating prioritizes speed over depth, creating pressure that conflicts with those who need time for genuine connections.

I'm 44 and I have started paying attention to how I feel the morning after I spend time with someone - not during, when the performance is running, but after, when the honest version arrives - and that single habit has told me more about my relationships than twenty years of thinking about them - Silicon Canals

The morning after social interactions reveals true emotional states, often contrasting with the perceived enjoyment during the event.

fromEast Bay Express | Oakland, Berkeley & Alameda

You Don't Have a Libido Problem, You Have a Presence Problem

Low desire often stems from a lack of mental and emotional presence rather than a true absence of libido.

Philosophy

1 month ago

Revealing the nature of love

Love manifests as distinct qualities—otherworldly, gentle, peaceful, slow and timeless—that directly counteract fear and oppressive power.

Before You Share Your Body, Ask: Do They Know You?

Physical intimacy often occurs before emotional intimacy, highlighting a paradox in relationships where vulnerability is avoided despite physical closeness.

Psychology says people who would always rather call than text aren't demanding more of your time - they're asking for the one thing that separates a real conversation from the performance of one, which is the sound of another person being alive on the other end, and that need is not inconvenient, it is human - Silicon Canals

Phone calls foster deeper connections than text messages, capturing nuances of emotion that typed words cannot convey.

2 weeks ago

Slow Down for Love

Slowing down enhances relationships and personal well-being by improving the quality of experiences over the quantity of tasks.

Want To Increase Your (or Their) Libido?

Desire issues often stem from personal and relational problems rather than libido alone.

Relationships

Love Stayed, Desire Didn't-Now What?

2 weeks ago

Want To Increase Your (or Their) Libido?

Desire issues often stem from personal and relational problems rather than libido alone.

Relationships

Love Stayed, Desire Didn't-Now What?

Is Making Love Different from Just Having Sex?

Making love differs from casual sex through patience, emotional intimacy, and temporal richness, involving slower, more tender interactions and deeper connection.

1 month ago

Is Kissing Essential for Exciting Sex?

Passionate kissing ranges from light pecks to intense French kissing, serving as intimate emotional communication, yet many people avoid it despite its role in romantic relationships.

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Readers replies: how can we learn from unrequited love?

True love is not transactional. If we only love on the expectation of being loved back, then it is not love, it is bartering. Love is unconditional. I love you, and that is all and everything. You do not need to do anything. You do not need to reciprocate. You do not even need to know.

Relationships

How often do people fall passionately in love? The answer may be less than you think

On average, single adults in the U.S. report they have fallen in passionate love twice in their life so far, according to a new survey. And 14 percent of the 10,036 respondents said they had never fallen in passionate love at all. The results highlight the diversity of people's experiences with love, says the study's lead author Amanda Gesselman, a psychologist at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute. There's a lot more variation than we really know about, she says.

Relationships

The Secret to Better Sex Isn't Better Sex

Open, emotionally safe, positive sexual communication predicts sexual and relationship satisfaction more than frequency, novelty, or technique.