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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
13 hours agoPsychology says people who keep their car immaculately clean while their house is a mess aren't inconsistent - the car is the one space in their life that is entirely theirs with no shared ownership and no negotiation required, and the cleanliness of it reflects the level of care they're capable of when they don't have to accommodate another person's standards or compromise their instincts to keep the peace - Silicon Canals
Pristine cars reflect personal space and autonomy, contrasting with the stress of shared living environments.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who check on everyone else during a crisis before acknowledging their own fear aren't selfless - they learned that being needed is the only form of safety their childhood ever reliably delivered - Silicon Canals
Composure in crises often masks unresolved childhood fears and the need to fulfill others' expectations.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who can walk away from an argument without needing the last word aren't passive or weak - they've learned that some people don't argue to understand, they argue to win, and disengaging from a game that was never designed to have a fair outcome is one of the most sophisticated emotional skills a person can develop, even though it almost always gets mistaken for not caring - Silicon Canals
Walking away from unproductive arguments reflects wisdom, not weakness, and is essential for emotional health.
#communication
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who rehearse conversations in their head before making a phone call aren't anxious for no reason - at some point in their life, saying the wrong thing had real consequences, and now they edit every sentence before it leaves their mouth like a person who learned the hard way that words can't be taken back once they land on someone who keeps score - Silicon Canals
Mental rehearsals before phone calls stem from past negative experiences and can significantly impact communication behavior.
Law
fromAbove the Law
5 days agoLegal Ethics Roundup: Billing 34.5 Hours In A Day, New ABA Recusal Opinion, Shortcomings In SCOTUS Ethics Rules, Pro Se AI Sanctions, Extra Time For Bar Exam, Purging Immigration Judges & More - Above the Law
Lawyers must disclose information that could lead to a judge's disqualification, balancing this with client confidentiality obligations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals
People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.
#therapy
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 week agoWhen Therapy Treats You as the Problem to Fix
Distress can stem from internal issues, external context, or both, and recognizing this is crucial for effective therapy.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 week agoWhen Therapy Explains Before It Understands
Therapists may misinterpret clients' experiences by relying on familiar frameworks, potentially overlooking genuine feelings and differences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific kind of person who can give the most precise, compassionate advice to everyone around them and then make the worst possible decisions for their own life. The clarity isn't selective. It's that they can only see patterns when they're not standing inside them. - Silicon Canals
People excel at identifying cognitive biases in others but struggle to recognize them in themselves, leading to a phenomenon called the bias blind spot.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoI'm 66 and I recently understood that the reason I find it so hard to ask for help is not independence - it is the very specific and very old belief that needing something from another person is the first step toward becoming a burden, and a burden, in the house I grew up in, was the one thing nobody was allowed to be - Silicon Canals
Independence can often mask fear, leading to a reluctance to ask for help and a belief that needing assistance is a weakness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who became adults without ever learning how to ask for help didn't develop independence. They developed a system where every need gets reclassified as a project they can handle alone, and the reclassification happens so fast now that they genuinely believe they never needed anything in the first place. - Silicon Canals
Resourcefulness can mask deeper emotional needs, leading to automatic self-sufficiency without recognizing the need for help.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe moment I stopped apologizing before every request was the moment I realized I'd been treating my own needs as an imposition on other people's comfort. The apology wasn't politeness. It was a pre-negotiated discount on my own worth so nobody could reject me at full price. - Silicon Canals
Apologizing before requests often diminishes one's own worth and serves as a shield against rejection.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the adults most likely to end up in therapy aren't the ones who had dramatic or obviously painful childhoods - they're the ones who grew up in households where everything was technically fine, nobody was cruel, and something essential was quietly missing in a way that took decades to find the words for - Silicon Canals
Emotional neglect in seemingly fine childhoods can have profound effects, leaving individuals feeling their inner world doesn't matter.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThere's a generation of people who were taught to apologize for their needs so effectively that as adults they experience wanting something as a form of aggression against whoever might have to provide it - Silicon Canals
Many adults associate expressing needs with guilt, viewing requests as impositions rather than natural interactions.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoThe Bureaucratization of the Therapist
Psychotherapy and counselling psychology, however, did not emerge from institutional logic. The field was forged within relational, psychoanalytic, and depth-oriented traditions that prioritize lived experience, symbolic meaning, cultural complexity, and human nuance over procedural standardization. Bureaucracy seeks predictability, yet psychotherapy was built upon a disciplined engagement with uncertainty.
Miscellaneous
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Key to Unshakable Safety When Speaking the Truth
That is, a way to speak your truth, even when it's unwanted, that allows you to honor our understandable fear, and also consider your actual reality. It doesn't mean ignoring the potential consequences, but at the same time, not letting the fear dictate your behavior, with no alternatives other than silence or inauthenticity. In other words, how to heal the dread associated with being displeasing and disapproved of that stems from your conditioning, generational history and experience.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoHas Therapy Felt Useless? You May Have Been Misunderstood
Some people have excessive self-control causing emotional suppression and isolation, requiring specialized therapy approaches like Radically Open DBT instead of standard emotion-regulation focused treatments.
Mental health
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoI Underwent "Conversion Therapy" as a Child. As a Psychiatrist, I Know How Professionally Derelict It Is.
States may regulate licensed therapists' conduct to prevent conversion therapy, which medicine deems fraudulent and harmful, protecting children from identity-changing treatments.
fromwww.mercurynews.com
2 months agoAsking Eric: My friend keeps calling, and I don't know what to tell her about her partner
I realized after several months that, while I enjoyed Susan's company, her partner Mike is not someone I am comfortable with. He is a heavy drinker and makes sexist and racist comments that leave me cringing. I've reached out to Susan several times to suggest the two of us do things solo, but unfortunately, they are quite joined at the hip.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoI Used to Love My Therapist. Then She Did Something So Deranged I Still Can't Comprehend It.
I grew up avoiding conflict, and I was marrying someone who was very good at making his position on just about anything known. In the gap between avoidance and expression, I was paralyzed. I needed help. My soon-to-be husband rightly insisted I see a therapist.
Mental health
fromFast Company
2 months agoHow to use psychology to shift a difficult relationship into a healthier one
Relationships can feel like both a blessing and the bane of your existence, a source of joy and a source of frustration or resentment. At some point, each of us is faced with a clingy child, a dramatic friend, a partner who recoils at the first hint of intimacy, a volatile parent, or a controlling boss - in short, a difficult relationship.
Relationships
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoHow Should You Pick a Therapist? What Should You Consider?
Approach initial therapy meetings as interviews to assess therapist fit, checking online presence for red flags and ensuring they specialize in your specific needs rather than claiming expertise in all areas.
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWhy UAP Disclosure Challenges Mental Health Ethics
If you saw something in the sky that you genuinely could not explain-something now officially categorized as an unidentified anomalous phenomena, or UAP-would you tell your therapist or psychiatrist? For many people, the honest answer is no. Not because they doubt their own perception, but because they worry about what might happen next. They fear being seen as unstable, having the experience reframed as a symptom, or having it documented in a way that could affect future care, employment, or credibility.
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