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How to Show Up With Kindness, Even on Your Toughest Days

Offering help and showing kindness can significantly improve relationships and workplace culture.

Writing

Why Kindness Takes Bravery

Careers

How to Show Up With Kindness, Even on Your Toughest Days

Offering help and showing kindness can significantly improve relationships and workplace culture.

Writing

Why Kindness Takes Bravery

Kindness involves taking risks and accepting the possibility of getting it wrong.

The Truth About Resilience No One Tells You About

Resilience is a dynamic process cultivated through engagement with adversity, not a fixed trait.

Mental health

Why Pressure Feels Like a Problem (Even When It's Right)

Mental health

'Bouncing back' is a myth. Here's what real resilience looks like

Wellness

Getting Back On When Life Spins You Off

The Truth About Resilience No One Tells You About

Resilience is a dynamic process cultivated through engagement with adversity, not a fixed trait.

Why Pressure Feels Like a Problem (Even When It's Right)

Resilience is built through facing suffering, not avoiding it, as it fosters clarity, energy, and self-trust.

'Bouncing back' is a myth. Here's what real resilience looks like

Resilience is not about toughness or bouncing back, but about moving forward after loss and trauma.

Wellness

Getting Back On When Life Spins You Off

6 New Books That Treat Wellness Like the Business Strategy It Is

Entrepreneurs need better filters for information, focusing on practical tools for health, clarity, and stamina.

Startup companies

19 hours ago

The Price You Pay When Your Business Becomes Your Identity

Entrepreneurs often merge their identity with their business, leading to challenges in delegation, health, and succession planning over time.

Wellness

6 New Books That Treat Wellness Like the Business Strategy It Is

Entrepreneurs need better filters for information, focusing on practical tools for health, clarity, and stamina.

Startup companies

19 hours ago

The Price You Pay When Your Business Becomes Your Identity

Entrepreneurs often merge their identity with their business, leading to challenges in delegation, health, and succession planning over time.

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Health

23 hours ago

The Many Faces of Procrastination and Health Behaviors

Procrastination can negatively impact health by delaying doctor visits and healthy behaviors.

Education

The Consequences of Having No Consequences

Consequences are essential for teaching resilience and responsibility in youth development.

Austin

The Emotional Cost of Becoming Someone New

Coping with life changes during a Ph.D. journey involves financial adjustments, emotional challenges, and personal growth.

Parenting

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22 hours ago

To the Wounded Parent Who Wants to Do Everything Right - Tiny Buddha

Healing from childhood trauma is essential for effective parenting and nurturing children's emotional well-being.

Online learning

23 hours ago

Learning Beyond Correction

Single-loop and double-loop learning enhance student achievement and adaptability in education.

Relationships

I'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals

Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.

Productivity

Online Community Development

The Habit You Don't Realize Is Hurting Your Productivity

The human brain cannot multitask; it switches tasks, leading to attention residue that hampers productivity.

Leading Through Identity: Mobilizing a Shared Sense of "Us"

Identity leadership enhances organizational success by fostering belonging, improving team cohesion, and aligning goals with employee values.

Running

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The Psychological Side of Sports Injury Recovery

Sports injuries significantly impact mental health, requiring attention to emotional recovery alongside physical healing.

New York Mets

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The Impotence of Positive Thinking

The Mets embody a mix of desperation and hope, leading to a belief in their potential for victory despite past failures.

Alternative medicine

Daily Rituals That Quiet an Overstimulated Mind

Creating intentional pauses throughout the day is essential for mental clarity and emotional well-being.

Skiing

A Simple Mind Trick to Help You Succeed

Mental framework and mindset significantly impact performance in high-pressure situations, as demonstrated by Ilia Malinin and Alysa Liu's contrasting Olympic experiences.

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16 hours ago

Psychology

Psychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals

Exercise

Building Confidence Through Small Victories

How to Perform to Your Potential When You Lack Confidence

Building a mental skills toolbox helps maintain commitment and performance despite doubts and nerves.

16 hours ago

Psychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals

Genuine confidence stems from self-awareness, not the need to broadcast one's worth or achievements.

Exercise

Building Confidence Through Small Victories

Naming tasks and completing small actions can rebuild confidence after significant loss.

How to Perform to Your Potential When You Lack Confidence

Building a mental skills toolbox helps maintain commitment and performance despite doubts and nerves.

4 Stoic rules to master your emotions at work

Stoicism teaches that one can control their response to external frustrations and focus on what is within their control.

When Illness Becomes a Character in Your Life

Chronic illness often becomes personified, impacting adaptation and well-being.

Parenting

fromMindful

Raising Happy Children In Challenging Times: Practices that Build Essential Skills For Well-Being

Happiness is attainable and essential for well-being, even amid life's challenges.

Relationships

Psychology says the most powerful words you can learn aren't 'I'm sorry' or 'I love you', they're 'that doesn't work for me', said without explanation or apology - Silicon Canals

Setting boundaries is essential for personal well-being and requires clarity and confidence.

Education

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'I stood up to my workplace bully - everyone tells you not to, but fighting back was my therapy'

Ide Mhic Gabhann experienced mental health challenges due to mistreatment from a colleague during her teaching job.

Wellness

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What To Say When Someone Comments On Your Body, According To Therapists

Body comments can impact self-worth and anxiety, regardless of intention, highlighting the need for mindful communication about appearance.

Retirement

Psychology says the secret to a good retirement isn't wealth or health or even relationships - it's having at least one thing you're still in the middle of, still becoming, still learning how to do - Silicon Canals

Retirement fulfillment stems from ongoing pursuits and curiosity, not just financial security or traditional metrics of success.

How to Start Changing What's Not Working

Lasting change begins with honest self-awareness and self-compassion. Every habit and coping pattern has served a purpose, meeting a need at some point in time.

Productivity

Careers

6 mindset shifts to improve your risk and failure tolerance

Change and volatility in the labor market necessitate a high Agility Quotient (AQ) to adapt successfully to evolving job landscapes.

23 hours ago

Why Avoiding Your Emotions Makes Them Stronger

Avoiding thoughts and emotions often intensifies them, while small shifts in response can help manage emotions effectively.

Why You Should Stop Rejecting Unpleasant Feelings

Fixing unpleasant feelings disrupts attention more than the feelings themselves.

Parenting

The people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals

Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.

Psychology explains people who forgive easily aren't weak or naive - they've simply done the math on what resentment actually costs the person carrying it and decided the debt isn't worth collecting, because forgiveness isn't about the other person deserving peace, it's about refusing to let someone who already hurt you once continue to take up space in a body they no longer have any right to occupy - Silicon Canals

Forgiveness is essential for personal well-being and mental health, freeing individuals from the burden of resentment.

Psychology says people who find genuine peace after 60 didn't get there by solving their problems - they got there by finally accepting which ones were never going to be solved and releasing the grip they'd been keeping on a version of life that was never coming, and that surrender isn't giving up, it's the first honest breath most people take in decades - Silicon Canals

Letting go of alternate lives and accepting the past brings peace as one ages.

The Fine Line Between Resignation and Acceptance

Acceptance leads to peace, while resignation fosters a victim mentality; taking action and changing perspective are key to moving forward.

From Despair to Strength: What One Man's Survival Teaches Us

Acceptance of emotions empowers change, while avoidance leads to disconnection and suffering.

Relationships

Psychology says people who find genuine peace after 60 didn't get there by solving their problems - they got there by finally accepting which ones were never going to be solved and releasing the grip they'd been keeping on a version of life that was never coming, and that surrender isn't giving up, it's the first honest breath most people take in decades - Silicon Canals

Letting go of alternate lives and accepting the past brings peace as one ages.

The Fine Line Between Resignation and Acceptance

Acceptance leads to peace, while resignation fosters a victim mentality; taking action and changing perspective are key to moving forward.

From Despair to Strength: What One Man's Survival Teaches Us

Acceptance of emotions empowers change, while avoidance leads to disconnection and suffering.

In A World Of "Maxxing," Free Yourself From "All Or Nothing" Mentality

The pressure to optimize every aspect of life can be overwhelming and counterproductive.

Psychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals

Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.

14 hours ago

The 3 Reasons Why Overthinking Gets Worse When You're Alone

Overthinking intensifies in isolation, while social connections help interrupt mental loops and promote action.

The Tool Your Clients Wish You Had Prescribed

AI can provide immediate mental health support, helping individuals manage anxiety and difficult moments effectively.

Obsessed With Being a Failure

Perfectionists fear failure deeply, equating it with self-worth and often spiraling into negative self-assessment.

Does Perfectionism Help or Hinder Your Creativity?

Perfectionism can stimulate and suppress creativity, depending on how individuals manage their high standards and flexibility.

14 hours ago

Obsessed With Being a Failure

Perfectionists fear failure deeply, equating it with self-worth and often spiraling into negative self-assessment.

Does Perfectionism Help or Hinder Your Creativity?

Perfectionism can stimulate and suppress creativity, depending on how individuals manage their high standards and flexibility.

5 Words That Quiet Your Loudest "What If" Worries

Creating distance from troublesome thoughts reduces their power over you.

22 hours ago

Psychology says the reason so many high-achievers can't enjoy their own wins isn't imposter syndrome, it's that achievement was the language they were taught love was spoken in, and they've never learned to receive love in any other form - Silicon Canals

High-achievers often feel unsatisfied with their accomplishments due to a childhood belief that achievement equals worth.

When Tension Turns Toxic

Understanding conflict phases helps in choosing appropriate responses and managing interactions effectively.

Psychology says the reason so many people crash emotionally in their early 60s isn't retirement or aging - it's the first time in decades they've had enough silence to hear their own thoughts and they don't recognize the person thinking them - Silicon Canals

Highly functional individuals often face delayed emotional collapse in their sixties due to decades of avoidance and relentless life pressures.

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4 weeks ago

How to Walk Away

Breakups can make you depressed and even damage your heart and immune system. Being the one who says 'it's over' can be torturous, especially if you're hurting someone you still care deeply about.

Philosophy

How to train your brain to see possibility instead of doom

Humility and the ability to tolerate uncertainty are essential cognitive skills in a world filled with unpredictability.

fromTiny Buddha

Why I Gossiped and What I Now Do Instead - Tiny Buddha

Gossiping about someone else gave me a fleeting escape, since it allowed me to shift my focus to someone else's behavior. Every time I did it, I felt a sense of guilt and shame after.

Mindfulness

When You Can't Picture Yourself in Your Own Future

Many young adults experience a psychological disconnection from their future, feeling detached from their own lives and milestones due to trauma and existential concerns.

Helping Everyone Else Might Be Hurting You

Noble self-sabotage manifests as prioritizing others' needs, reinforcing the belief that personal needs come last.

#hope

Productivity

Reclaiming Hope in a Time of Uncertainty

Mental health

8 Reasons Why Choosing Hope Matters Now

Productivity

Reclaiming Hope in a Time of Uncertainty

Mental health

8 Reasons Why Choosing Hope Matters Now

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The emotional security secret: how to get healthier, happier and have stronger relationships

Amir Levine's new book, Secure, offers tools to help individuals develop secure attachment styles for improved relationships and longevity.

Why We Can Struggle to Leave the Past Behind

Past hardships can continue to influence present behavior, even after conditions improve.

22 hours ago

When Failure Seems Imminent, What Happens to the Narcissist?

Narcissistic individuals are particularly sensitive to failure and often rationalize it to protect their self-image.

The Secret Advantage of Not Doing It Alone

Social support enhances performance, reduces stress, increases well-being, and can be experienced through imagination and helping behaviors.

Feel Like a Fraud? Read This Before You Doubt Yourself Again

Self-doubt can enhance performance when managed effectively, distinguishing successful entrepreneurs who act despite their insecurities.

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.

I turned 34 before I finally understood: no one is on their way to rescue you, no one is tallying your effort, and life doesn't wait for you to feel ready - it just keeps moving without you - Silicon Canals

Success is not guaranteed by effort alone; waiting for recognition can lead to disappointment.

#emotional-regulation

Is Emotional Regulation Effective Everywhere?

Emotional regulation involves actively managing emotions through suppression or reappraisal, influencing their emergence and impact on our lives.

3 Things You Can Learn About Yourself Without Therapy

Humans can effectively engage in emotional regulation and self-reflection without the need for therapy.

Is Emotional Regulation Effective Everywhere?

Emotional regulation involves actively managing emotions through suppression or reappraisal, influencing their emergence and impact on our lives.

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3 Things You Can Learn About Yourself Without Therapy

Humans can effectively engage in emotional regulation and self-reflection without the need for therapy.

The Surprise Mindset

Adopting a 'surprise mindset' helps navigate the positive and negative effects of unexpected events.

3 Strategies to Optimize Your Strengths

Focus on who goals rather than what goals to cultivate character strengths and become a better version of yourself.

There's a specific kind of adult who apologizes for crying even when they're alone, and it isn't sensitivity, it's the residue of a childhood where emotion was something you were expected to clean up before anyone saw the mess - Silicon Canals

Adults who were invalidated in childhood often apologize for their emotions, reflecting deep-seated patterns of emotional suppression.

Overcoming Problems of the Emotional System

Emotional rigidity leads to self-limiting behavior and misinterpretation of feelings, hindering personal growth and development.

3 Ways to Overcome the Fear of Judgment

Fear of negative evaluation can be reduced by focusing on values rather than self-monitoring during social interactions.

2 weeks ago

What to Do When You're Feeling Stuck

Feeling stuck often arises from facing major life decisions and the tension between comfort and personal growth.

Psst off: how keeping secrets can harm your wellbeing

Keeping secrets is psychologically costly and can have negative consequences on wellbeing.

How Many Days a Week?

We tend to think of the five-day workweek as a law of nature, as certain as the rising of the sun. But it's nothing of the sort. The five-day workweek is a human invention that was introduced just over a century ago to solve the specific problems of the industrial age. By now it's so ingrained in our lives that we've forgotten we created it in the first place-but we did create it and we can also un-create it.

History

Social justice

Hope Is a Verb

Modern activism relies on visceral emotional drivers, confrontational Resistance 2.0 tactics, community support, and storytelling to restore agency and humanize affected communities.

Psychology says the art of not caring what others think isn't something you decide to do one day - it's a quiet skill built over years of noticing how much of your life was being shaped by opinions of people who weren't actually paying attention to you in the first place - Silicon Canals

People overestimate how much others notice their actions and appearance, leading to unnecessary self-consciousness.

Philosophy

Giving Up Is Always an Option, but Rarely the Best One

When unable to achieve desired goals, people often reframe their desires as undesirable to protect self-esteem, but research shows this defensive strategy of disengagement reduces life satisfaction over time.

2 weeks ago

Psychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals

Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.

Bridging the Gap From Here to Your Future Self

Imagining a future self strengthens connections to values and enhances life choices by tracing continuity from past to future.

To Be Happy, You Eventually Need to Do What You Can't

Recognizing and addressing emotional and behavioral challenges is essential for personal growth and achieving goals.

You're Not Too Sensitive, Even If It Feels That Way

Avoiding emotions intensifies them; feeling strong emotions can build confidence and reduce overwhelm.

Why You Feel Empty After Achieving Your Goals

The arrival fallacy explains post-achievement emptiness, revealing that many goals are inherited rather than authentically chosen.

The 100-Year Smile

Holding onto anger accelerates cellular aging and negatively impacts health; choosing joy and letting go is essential for longevity.

"Don't Postpone Happiness"

In the interview, Tweedy dropped a line that's been echoing in my head, "Do not postpone happiness." This is so deceptively simple yet psychologically sharp, and it rings true to how I try to live my life. Most of us don't mean to delay joy. We tell ourselves we're being responsible: After this deadline...after the kids are older...After I lose the weight...After I finally feel less anxious...then I'll really live.

Wellness

2 weeks ago

Most people who overcame years of laziness didn't find motivation - they found a mirror they couldn't look away from - Silicon Canals

Self-awareness is crucial for real change; many people misperceive their own behaviors and motivations.

Beyond Positive Thinking: Glimmers for Restoration

Glimmers are small, intentional daily moments that help the nervous system shift toward calm and safety, serving as micro-pivots during stress.

Creating Our Own Luck: 4 Ideas for Taking Decisive Action

Deliberate, persistent action combined with positive mindset, preparation, and problem-solving creates personal luck and destiny rather than relying on superstition.

4 weeks ago

Affirmations Are Back

Affirmations effectively reduce stress and anxiety, yet many individuals reject them due to perceptions of being hokey or uncomfortable with self-praise.

The one change that worked: When good things happen, I write them down and it's made me more optimistic

Persistent catastrophizing and chronic worry can be softened by noticing and recording small positive coincidences, which can shift outlook and reduce anxiety.

Strengthening Self-Worth

Strengthening self-worth through self-care, valuing personal qualities, asserting needs, and challenging self-criticism improves mood and overall well-being.

How Kindness and Compassion Make Hard Goals Doable

Love-based motivation, including kindness, compassion, empathetic joy, and equanimity, provides sustainable energy for achieving goals beyond traditional habit systems.

How to Find Hope in Challenging Times

We're experiencing chronic stress, which blocks our ability to hope. Here's why: the amygdala, the brain's alarm center, reacts with fight, flight, or freeze (Akil & Nestler, 2023; LeDoux, 1996). This reaction can save our lives in an emergency. When we're in a crosswalk and see a car speeding toward us, we can react by stopping or jumping out of the way.

Mindfulness

What science reveals about the benefits of positive thinking

Henry Ford famously noted, "Whether you think you can do it or not, you are usually right." His point was that beliefs, especially about our talents, performance, and even luck, can be self-fulfilling. Irrespective of whether they are right or wrong, they will become true by influencing objective success outcomes. Ford was hardly alone. Along the same lines, decades of psychological research show that beliefs matter, often profoundly so.

Psychology